What Makes a Mother

[Lexi.Mommy]

Back in 2004 I was pregnant.  I ended up having a D&C for a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks.  My child was due in June.  It was the hardest thing I have ever endured.  I just figured I get pregnant when I wanted to and have a baby.  I never thought something like this would ever happen to me.  This is a poem I have kept close to me that I found on www.mommietalk.com.  I did not write this and I do not know who did, but it is beautiful and truly helped me deal with the pain of losing a child.  I am posting this for any others who have lost a child in hopes that it will help them with their pain.  It touches my heart every time I read it and I still cry.  I hope this helps anyone else who has endured a loss. 

What makes a Mother

 

I thought of you and closed my eyes

And prayed to God today

I asked, “What makes a mother?”

And I know I heard Him say,“

A mother has a baby”

This we know is true

But, God, can you be a mother

When your baby is not with you? 

 

“Yes, you can,” He replied

With confidence in His voice

“I give many women babies

When they leave it is not their choice

Some I send for a lifetime

And others for the day

And some I send to feel your womb

But there’s no need to stay.” 

 

I just don’t understand this God

I want my baby here 

 

He took a big breath

And cleared His throat

And then I saw a tear

“I wish I could show you

What your child is doing today

If you could see your child smile

With other children and say

“We go to earth to learn our lessons

Of love and life and fear

My mommy loved me so much

I got to come straight here

I feel so lucky to have a mom who had so much love for me

I learned my lessons very quickly

My mommy set me free. 

 

I miss my mommy oh so much

But I visit her each day

When she goes to sleep

On her pillow’s where I lay

I stroke her hair and kiss here cheek

And whisper in her ear

Mommy don’t be sad today

I am your baby and I am here.” 

 

“So you see my dear sweet one

Your children are okay

Your babies are here in My home

And this is where they will stay

They’ll wait for you with Me

Until your lessons are through

And on the day you come home

They’ll be at the gates for you. 

 

So now you see

What makes a mother

It’s the feelings in your heart

It’s the love you had so much of

Right from the very start

Though some on earth

May not realize

Until their time is done

Remember all the love you have

And know that you are

A special mom.”