I NEED HELP, I REALLY REALLY NEED HELP i have to sell everything i have, i'm out on my ass with a baby

[Stroodle]

 So its been a year and my bf if now back from Greenland, ok great right...WRONG after just 2 weeks he told me we need time apart. not so bad right? WRONG, i'm out on my ass with a 17 month old baby boy i have no money i moved far away from all my friends and family FOR HIM. i have nothing but a car and he will pay for the fuel it will cost to get me to another state, but thats it. i dont have a job, no friends or family to go to. i love him and dont want to leave him but i have to go. i would like to go to job corp in CA to get my life back on track, they will help out with daycare but i need to find my own place to live. but i dont have the $$ to put down a deposit or anything. i dont know what i'm going to do. i really dont know. i would like to find another mom or dad or anyone with young kids and be a roommate. i can maybe afford $300 for a few months and  hopefully get a job and be able to pay more. in todays world you cant get nothing for under $600 it seems like. i just dont know what to do.

 Anyone want to give me some advice or if your looking for a roommate in long beach or LA cali let me know. i cant believe this has happened, i was loyal, and moved where ever he wanted me to go. i am in WV right now. and i am screwed. i dont know what to do. i havent cheated on him, i'm not a druggy i dont know what happen. he says he just not happy. but i am so happy with him...well not now i'm really sad but you know what i ment...i think....

 Also i need to get rid of everything i have for money and what dosent fit in my car cant go with me and the baby. i need to sell everything. heres a small list.

 baby bottles never used

baby cloths sizes 0-2T (and i have a lot of baby clothes, 4 or 5 boxes full most little boys clothes that have been washed but never worn)

size 4 huggies diapers new in unopened package. (lot of them, he out grew)

not sure if i'm going to sell his crib or not, its a $400 brand new crib that was used for a month and thats it, we moved to much and never got to use it, my sons still using a pack 'n play as a bed :( this crib turns into a toddle bed, then a reg. full size bed.

bedding

loads of cups, glasses, pots and pans dishes all that kind of stuff

i have an out side jungle gym play set i bought off ebay cleaned it and set it up inside for my son to play in, need to sell that, i paid $140 for it but will take almost any offer because i need $$ and have to clear out everything i have.

oh and BEANIE BABIES i have loads and loads of them, new with tags,  and ALL the McD happy meal ones 

well thats all i'm going to list now. oh and a lot of baby toys, most new and they have been packed for so long my son has out grew them anyways.  (all my stuff has been packed since Oct last year, i was waiting for him to come back we were going to move again. but things changed now i have to go and need to get rid of everything, so all my baby stuff is like new, and most never used)

 

 please make this popular so more moms can see it. thank you. 

 i'm not asking for hand outs or donations but i will sell anything and everything i got. and if you need a roommate for LA or long beach CA let me know. thank you.

 

 

 

[carmenrv]

Jun. 25, 2008 at 8:14 PM Aw man, bless your heart!  

[littlelady1]

Jun. 25, 2008 at 8:40 PM if it was me id kick his ass for doing that to you and the baby then leave atleast make yourself feel better for him doing that good luck honey

[paxtynmaraya]

Jun. 25, 2008 at 9:05 PM aww hun I was worried about this if you have no luck over there we will get you back here in Florida where you belong!! I will babysit I miss you hun I would go for childsupport on that no good piece of crap he could have atleast got you into a place for you and his son thats the least he could do. Why the hell did he help you before but wont now!!! Call me hun

[Stroodle]

Jun. 25, 2008 at 9:12 PM  he has no more money, he has enough to pay for the fuel cost to get me to CA and maybe one months rent to give me, but thats it. he's broke, i'm broke. he decided i'm not what he wants, and he dosent want the baby. i think the baby is the biggest part of why he's leaving. i need to get my life in order anyways. just wish i had some $$ time and room in the car to do it.......i'm asking to much i guess

(Original Poster)

[Lb128f]

Jun. 26, 2008 at 2:17 AM

Under COMMUNITY - rooms/shared there are some listings for shared rentals and under CHILDCARE there are some LIVE- IN positions available. Good Luck!

http://losangeles.craigslist.org/

Would it maybe be a better idea to find a shelter and work for a while and save up some money before taking off?? The state offers childcare assistance, WIC, food stamps, medical insurance...all these might help?? The father does have to pay Child Support and if he is not you can file for Welfare and the state will "find" him and make him pay.

http://apps.grassroots.org/shelter_links/51_West_Virginia.shtml

http://www.wvdhhr.org/ Dept. of Soc. Services

 

  

[paxtynmaraya]

Jun. 26, 2008 at 9:29 AM oh wow thats crazy. Where are you at now? I was waiting for you to call so I could talk to you. Maybe you could come back here work and save up your money then move in CA since there is noone out there that you know. I know you really wanna go there and coming back here is not what you want but just thinking it might be best. Could you go to Crystal and Tommy's?

[Stroodle]

Jun. 26, 2008 at 7:28 PM

 no i cant go to crystals and tommys place, we went to visit them last week and alex pissed tommy off. when we got back here tommy emailed me and told me to never come over again we are no longer welcome. besides my own sister hates me, thats all she said when i was there. she got so mad when my son had a poppy diaper and i had to change it in her house......wtf was i supposed to change him outside in the dirt!?! i donno its a mess.....you know crystal she gets like that. i swear when it rains it brings on tornadoes.

 

 thankx Lb128f i'll check into that. i cant wait and try to save up the $$ then go. he is going to pay for the fuel cost to get me to another state, i have a month to figure out what i'm going to do. so i need to pick a state so he can pay my fuel bill. atlest he's doing that but the rest is up to me.

(Original Poster)

[Della529]

Jun. 26, 2008 at 11:14 PM Is he in the military?  Did he sign the birth certificate?  Don't let this scum deprive his child of child support.  And, please don't take this wrong, but why would you want to go to CA?  It's really expensive out there and finding a decent place to live is going to cost an exorbinant amount of money.  Please think things through before you decide where to go.  I've learned that the grass always looks prettier from the other side of the fence.  At least until you cross the fence.  If you need to talk, I'm here.

[Stroodle]

Jun. 26, 2008 at 11:43 PM

i chose CA so i can join the job corps center there. they will help me get my diploma and train me in one of the fields they offer. they have locations all around the US and i pick calli b/c it if the only one that offers training for Radiology Technician AND helps with day care cost. they will pay half of it for me. if i did not have the baby i could live on campus free. but since i have a child they will help with daycare atlest. my problem is i need a place to stay if i go there...and $$. its free to go to and i meet the age requirement. i think it would be a smart choice for me. if you want to know more about it heres the website http://jobcorps.dol.gov/center.htm

 no he is not in the military, but he is in the IT field and dose contract work for the government. since he just got back from greenland he is unemployed. he spent the whole day looking for work in all states so i guess he thinking on staying in the country for now. as for me i spent the day looking for a place to go and thinning out mine  and my sons stuff.

 i know its gonna cost an arm and a leg once i get in cali, but atlest he's filling my tank til i get there.

(Original Poster)

[OOHPFG]

Jun. 26, 2008 at 11:44 PM

I don't know what state you are in, but in most states he cannot legally kick you out on your ass. He has to go threw the eviction process, which can take weeks. AND if he doesn't do everything the court demands, you can contest the eviction.

If your stuff is in the house, and you really have been living there he can't make you leave all at once. It might be uncomfortable to live there, but it might give you time to get your life in order.