Oh God! She didn't make it!

[kcd78]

Out of the seven years that my hubby and I have been together, there has always been this woman that he has always talked about...his grandmother.  You know how most men marry  a woman that is just like their mother.  Well he says that I am just like his grandmother.  I am big like her, I wear glasses like her,I always have something cooking in the kitchen like her, I love giving out hugs like her well you get the point.  I met her and fell in love with her like my own in no time. we even went to stay a couple of months with her when she had trouble with her back after her surgery.  Recently her health has really been going down and due to our lack of money we really haven't  had the means to go and visit her (she lives three hours away) Yesterday the doctor's told the family she only has two days to live.  Every one was trying to find a way to go.. As luck would have it our car is NOT gonna make it by far. So everybody was trying to find a way for all of us to go (there is 5 n the family but one is out of town so that  just leaves us and the two little ones).

  No body had made any decisions I said to leave all the kids with me and let everyone else go (my hubby his sister her boyfriend their cousin and aunt) all in one car.  Then about 7 am this morning his sister comes to the house and says she passed this morning at 6.  OMG!   and the worst thing of all is no one is telling my husband.  she is his heart his world and she is gone and no one will tell him.  They must know that he will not take this news at all.  now he is riding with them as i type to take the journey only to find out that she is already gone.  Before he left I gave him the biggest hug I have ever given anyone in all of my life.  I told him that he is gonna need this.  What am I to do.  I mean I am just sitting here crying the kids don't know why and I don;t know what to do.  I need some help some comfort  and most of all some advice.  What do I do what  do i say how do i help my husband Darryl coupe with the lost of his world?

[Diamond245]

Jun. 29, 2008 at 8:42 AM oh gosh i am sorry to hear about that, that has got to be hard

[mshatch0613]

Jun. 29, 2008 at 8:46 AM I'm sorry for the loss. They should have told him before they even left because They only set him up for disappointment. I hope one of them have the courage to tell him on the way because it's like keeping a secret with guilt. If I lost someone dear to me, I'd want someone to tell me. She's in good hands though. The Lord gave her another life as an angel to your soul so now when a bell rings, she's getting her wings. It's ok to cry.

[mandarose]

Jun. 29, 2008 at 8:48 AM I am so sorry for your loss. I would have told him though. I wouldn't be surprised if he gets mad at you for not telling him.

[Diamond245]

Jun. 29, 2008 at 8:51 AM i doubt if he would get mad at you

[taylorsmommy2]

Jun. 29, 2008 at 9:32 AM Yeah, someone should have told him.  Now it is going to hurt worse.  He's going to be sad that she's gone but he's going to be anry and hurt that no one told him.  He's expecting to go up there and see her before she passes and she's already gone.  He won't get to see her at all. 

[Daintydecker]

Jun. 29, 2008 at 12:46 PM Oh KC, I'm so sorry for your lost.  That would be so tough!  I don't really have any advice to give you.  If I was there with you I'd give you a great big hug and I'd take care of your kiddies while you did what you had to.  I'm going to be thinking of you all day....You will be in my prayers KC!