Should I mourn?

[TheLostMuppet]

I just saw a post about ectopic pregnancy.
I had one a year ago in February. Durin which, I also had my tubes tied.
Its one of those freak occurrences in life and health, I guess. Mine was so bad, if i had waited any longer, i couldve died!
The thing that has me thinkin was some of the responses on the post......
It was a question whether it should be considered an abortion or not.....thats bull-shit, but not my point.
Alot of the mothers said its more to be considered a miscarriage.
I mean, the baby probably died when my tube burst.
I never thought about it before. Did I have a miscarriage?
I celebrated this past Feb because it was a year since I got my tubes tied.
(Fun as it was, I was done poppin out watermelons through a lemon)
Should I have been mournin instead?
I guess I never really thought about it. That was a life that, under other circumstances, would of been with me today.
I guess Im just kinda weirded out by the whole thing.
I dont kno if its the liquor, or the fact that "Aunt Flow" is almost here, but Im just not sure how I feel about this.

[mellie369]

Jul. 11, 2008 at 9:27 PM If it's never bothered you before, why make it bother you now?

[TheLostMuppet]

Jul. 11, 2008 at 9:29 PM Thats the weird thing.....
I never thought about it as a miscarriage before, and ,all of a sudden, it just hit me.

(Original Poster)

[MSugarKane]

Jul. 11, 2008 at 9:29 PM I agree with mellie....I had one of those, but went home to my children I already had and never thought about it again....it wasn't a big issue with me.

[FooLynRoo]

Jul. 11, 2008 at 9:29 PM

You should feel whatever you feel. Feelings on things like this are personal and vary from person to person.

For me, while I think I would of understood the pregnancy would of never come full term, I would probably of experienced some heartache over the life we had concieved.

But if that's not how you feel, then there is nothing wrong with that.

[Momtocccd]

Jul. 11, 2008 at 9:53 PM Everyone deals with stuff like that differently. You have to do what is right for you.

[softy04]

Jul. 11, 2008 at 10:01 PM yes it is hard to understand what to feel. i had one in 2002 it almost killed me. they cut me open like fish. the tub bust and all that poison inside me. and the baby it would have been my last sweet baby but i did not know i was pregnant. so I'm not grieving it. i do think about it every now and then. but I'm so sick now i would not be able to take care of the child by my self. 

[UTZY]

Jul. 12, 2008 at 12:38 AM i hope you get some peace with this.

[bornabrat123]

Jul. 12, 2008 at 10:57 AM my bff did this but she sit 4 like 4 days b4 going to the hosp[ital then her hubby called her an ambulance cause she couldnt keep her eyes open and her tubes had bust she was bleeding internally and if she would have waited 10 more min she would have died she had an etopic preg. but had to have emergency surgery to remove her tubes completly anywho point being she alwyas says she would like to met her child she lost so i consider it a miscarriage but its been a year since it happen to you so whatever you need to think of it as so that it easier for you is what you should do i think it was easier for her to think that way ill be thinking of you and hoping you feel ok HUGS

[Ianmommy4]

Jul. 12, 2008 at 11:27 AM I have lost two and I do miss what could have been But I don't mark the calender of the day to sit around and cry.  I have 4 kids with me now and later I will see the others

[chocolatluver]

Jul. 12, 2008 at 12:48 PM  I had a miscarriage a long time ago..I was only like 7 weeks pregnant and had taken the pregnancy test just the day before~ I wasn't ready for a kid, but I don't know if anyone ever is~ I was relieved but at the same time so saddened it made me feel sick~I felt like God knew what he was doin~ This is gross but I remember what it looked like when it came out~ I just sat there lookin at it~  I wanted to cry, so many emotions~relief~loss~`that's my baby~!~ and what could I do~? I eventually worked up the courage to flush the friggin toilet but I'l never forget it~ever~ (sorry so graphic) I could have a son or daughter today if God hadn't seen fit to keep it for himself~feel like he doesn't think Im worthy~ but that's just me..~guess those feelings never go away~you brought that all back to me...your feelings are perfectly normal I'd say~~? Especially this time of the month~seems to be when all the important stuff comes to the surface~