It doesn't seem fair!

[SCmommy106]

My little sweetheart Abby is two. Last Decembar she was diagnosed with developemental hip dysplasia. She had surgery to correct it and was put in a body cast from her chest down to her ankles for 4 months. In those 4 months she got around really well by army crawling and was even able to climb. When she had her cast removed in March she was put into a removeable brace that she still wears at night. We took her to the orthopedic doctor(whom she is terrified of now) a few weeks ago to learn that she will need another surgery in the near future. This surgery is similar to a bone graft and is much move invasive, requiring a blood transfusion, morhine drip and a 3 day hospital stay...and of course a cast for 3 weeks. I try to remind myself all the time that this is a fixable ailment, that it isn't fatal, and that many children are far worse off than her, and my heart hurts for their parents. But when my dumb sister inlaw who has never had a problem with her daughter says to me "Oh it's no big deal, it's only 3 weeks this time" I feel like punching her. I don't know if I'm prepared to go through this again, the hellish hospital stay, the special bathing, not being able to use a high chair a normal car seat and stroller, and the horrible looks I get from ignorant people when I take her out in her cast, as if to say "Oh my god you let your child get hurt" or "What did you do to your child?" I know I have to and I will be strong for her, I just wish every once in a while I could talk to someone close to me about it, and be able to cry a little, and not have to hear "it's not that bad." Yes it is bad, it sucks. I sucks to have to be scared for your child. I sucks that a child who has been able to run and jump and play for months now, will be confind to a cast even for 3 weeks. I just want to feel like it is ok for me to be mad about it once in a while, and not have to hear dumb comments from people who know nothing about it.

[modesta96]

Jul. 30, 2008 at 3:42 PM

I am so sorry your family has to go through this I know it's hard having your baby in the hospital. Then in casts...you must feel helpless. I don't know if you are a praying woman but pray about it. The Bible says," I can do all things through Christ whom strengthens me" (my favorite verse) If your not a praying woman I will pray for you regardless and your child. I do know how it feels to feel like a helpless mom though. My daughter has been hospitalized three times once for RSV  then twice for seizures. The seizures were the scariest thing we had to face with her. Our next step is an EEG to find the cause of them.  I cant imagine surgery though.  As you say the first time she di adjust by getting aroud and climbing with the thing on I am sure she will adjust thus time as well. Our babies are stronger than we think! Like I said before I will keep you all in my prayers.

[sugaree]

Aug. 5, 2008 at 6:54 PM

I think you most certainly have the right to be mad. I do not think that your sister-in-law has any right or room to say anything about your situation. You would think, because she is family, that she would feel even more sympathy for you and your daughter. I don't know what it's like to have a child in the hospital, but I am sorry that this has happened to your family, let alone once, and then again. I hope that you stay strong for your little one and everything turns out okay!! Take care! [=