Regarding my thought bubble....(about women's sexuality)............

[ladyk99]

I saw some things happening with the teens that were here visiting with us..and I have been kind of unsure as to if it was a sexual identity thing happening..(because humans beings do question their sexuality while growing up)!
I was seeing my hubby's youngest daughter jumping on top of her friend in bed, squeezing her friends' breasts... saying "I love you!", holding her friend's hands...itching her crotch and talking about it and kissing her friend, also giving her hickies' on the arms..(I think as a joke!),also, my hubby joked with his daughters' friend and asked her if she "swung" both ways? and to that answer the girl had said "yes!"

The girls both love to look at guys..and love the "hot" ones...they also have good male friends...(but, I guess that I am just mainly so curious because I never answered this question for myself...and that is why I am so darn curious!(I thought that I had...but, I actually have dreams about being with women...although, when I had tried to "experiment" with a close friend..I was totally, just totally turned OFF! I really like being with men(and yes, I am married..happily...but, I have always wondered..ya know? I am just really, really curious "IF" I would ever want to "see" what it would be like to be with both!)
I think that if anything, I am probably straight...but, I also wonder because I was just sooo totally turned off by my close friend..and ironically, I had a hot dream with her in it..but, it was only a "dream"..and dreams are only dreams...they are NOT reality.

IT is normal to dream about same sex types of sexual dreams...despite what you might think...a LOT of humans do this...but, like I said..I don't want you to think that just because I mentioned all of this.that I have a "hatred" for gay women or gay men...because I feel that what I actually am going thru is a long time curiousity, and, frankly I am just wondering, not only about these kids sexual tastes..but, even mine...I wonder if I could even be bi!
(When I was a young kid...I remember playing prince and princess..and I wanted to be the boy!! My friend was the Princess...it felt odd to me...but, it also kind of excited me too!
But, then again, it also scared the crap out of me as well. I got worried that if people found out..they would hate me a LOT!!! Even my best friend.) I think that I was like in first or second grade.. or around that age or so.

I know that it is "normal" to go thru these types of feelings..and that also if you do happen to have a sexual experience with a same sex person and have never done so before..it does NOT mean that you are gay or bi! (We are all born androgynous basically!)
We could go "either way" technically!!

We also are born gay or bi...too!

Some claim that it is a thing that happens if you have been molested or raped...etc....that could be true, I am sure!! I could understand that!And what about if the men in your mom's or dad's lives were awful..?!?
That could definitely change your life!! (that is for women I mean...since I am not here to talk about men and THEIR sexuality!) We are talking women only.


I used to talk to a close gay male friend of mine about the gay scale and the ways that you would know...he even kind of questioned me...regarding MY preferences...I was just totally NOT turned on my my female close friend...but, what if I got to be with a woman that DID do a LOT more for me..what then?
Maybe I would like it...but, at this point ...I just prefer to be with men..and NOT explore that side of my life....at least not now anyhow....
But, I remain with this odd curiosity of "what if?"


Has anybody ever been even half-way curious about their sexual curiosity...?
ALso, what about the teens that I am referring to...do you suppose that they are just and only experimenting..?

I ask you this..because I kept bringing this up to my hubby and he started to get pissed at me...so, I am not going to ask him anymore...I will ask all of you out here!!

I am just merely very curious...that's all!!

Thanks...


ladyk99




P.S.Maybe the girls also have hormones running amok as well, and they also are "trying" things out on one another...because men are kind of scary as well!

(They do appear to like guys a LOT..but, maybe they really do NOT know exactly "what" they want....know what I mean???)


If anybody has some great answers here..and or if you are gay and can totally understand what I am trying to understand...please feel free to share...I am just curious, is all...Thanks a lot!!

[SugarKrystal]

Jul. 14, 2008 at 2:10 PM

I've been having the same feelings lately and it drives me crazy!  I have been happily married for 15 years but curious about the same sex for awhile but lately they have been strong feelings. I spoke to my husband about it and his comment was "I want to watch if you do!"  Well they say curiosity killed the cat, so I'm not sure of what to do.

I think the girls are curious also. 

[Caliborn]

Jul. 27, 2008 at 4:50 AM

I was married for almost 13 years and I also was molested as a child. But i also found myself as a younger girl finding women attractive. I would read and look at the playboys and it would make me hot. I found my self more and more curious as I got older but there was one problem, I was a very strong practicing Catholic by choice, My parents didn't go church regularly but I did. I asked to go to a catholic school so because of that I tried to do the right thing. I got married. When I decided the marriage was not for me anymore I left my husband and choose to started my life over with my kids. I took a year to find my self. Then dated guys for abit and then met a girl that I knew was gay. Must have been the gay-dar, anyway I asked her where she went. Her and her girlfriend took me to a ladies bar. I loved it. I was in heaven watching the girls dance together and started going on my own. Started to get involved with the gay world. I started dating women, mostly bi-women because it was safe. The way to find out if that is the life I wanted. I found that I enjoyed sex with women more then with men. I was more comfortable with women. I did try to date guys again and it was just not the same. I never really enjoy a guy waking me up for sex. with a women she can wake me up anytime.... I am still not a person that needs a lot of sex but I do love the cuddling before and after or just to cuddle.  I have some wonderful Lady friends that are straight don't get me wrong and some wonderful gay friends but Even though I find some of them very attractive I could not imagine ever kissing any of them... I know this has been long and I hope it helps some.