So Stressed out, I don't know what to do!

[mommyjones]

Alrighty I have not freakin idea what the hell is going on with me. I am like loosing it over everything. I am taking things out on my girls and my husband and I feel so bad. I am so sick of doing everything, I mean EVERYTHING! I am always cleaning up after everyone, doing th elaundry, diahes vacuuming, taking care of the cat, cleaning up the girls rrom about 2 times a day and somethimes more. I go out with the girls and they are alwyas runnign around grabbing htings off the shelves. I noticed I have begun yelling at them when we are in the stores and I feel so bad that I am doing that. I feel like I never want to go shopping with them ever again because they are always acting up. They are always hanging on me, never on my husband. He never asks "Do you need a hand?" or "Can I help you out?" Nope, all he does is enjoy himself. All day yesterday we went on boat with his friend and all the girls did was hang on me and cry and whine. I never got a moment to myself. He got to go tubing, drink beer and go swuimming as well as fishing. Never once did I get to pick up my book and read. I wish I could have like a day or two to myself, or to even hang out with girl friends. But NO, I never get to enjoy myself.

Today Skylar hit me so hard, and I can't believe it but I hit her hack on her hand, and then I started crying and hugging her and apologizing. I have no idea what is going on with me. They both are just so much or a hnadful I just feel like I am doing everything on my own. When the girls are yelling at one another I start yelling at them. What am I going to do.

I want some friend scloser to me, but I don't have the guts to make any new friends. All my friends seem to be ignoring me when I ask to hang out and all. I feel so ALONE! CAN ANYONE HELP ME!

[mom2angelbaby]

Jul. 14, 2008 at 1:07 PM Sweetie, you need a day off ASAP!!!  You have to tell your husband you are too stressed out.  I know how you are feeling, and it isn't fair to you or anyone else. Your dh MUST take your needs into consideration and give you a day off.  Trust me, even 4 hours of alone time will help you feel MUCH better!!!

[Karmom3]

Jul. 19, 2008 at 4:57 AM I am so sorry you are going through this. You should try some play groups in your area.  Try this one www.momsclub.org, they have local chapters all over the united states.  You will find that you are not alone in your frustrations and maybe you can find some new friends that have more compassion for what you are going through.  As for the kids, you are stressed and desperate for help.  Look no one is prefect and no parent is perfect we all have our moments, but you can not sit with the guilt. It stops you from being proactive in your life, it also stops you from getting to the root of what is the base of your feelings.  If you can't recognize your hurtles, then you can't over come them.  Here is another resources www.babycenter.com, they deal with every issue under the sun and with kids up to 9 years old.  As for the husband, I would easy to say kick him to the curb but I know that is more easily said than done.  But I think some soul finding on your part will help you determine what you want and what you're going to do to achieve it.  I know it might be hard to get moments by yourself but you are going to have to steal them.  Put the kids to bed early, let the cleaning go for a night.  Relax, catch up on some reading, reconnect with yourself... try to do something a little special for your self every week or so.  Sometimes we can't wait around for someone else to do right by us, some times we have to do it for ourselves.  BIG HUGES, I know you have the strength and ability to turn this around for the better.  Don't listen to the negative voices in or out side of your head.