I love you game...hit me hard

[mymygoodness]

Why is "I love you" so hard to say? Have you ever tried to tell someone on Cafemom I love you when you've never seen them? There is an "I love you" game going around on Cafemom. Someone sent me an email on cafemom yesterday that said I had 10 minutes to tell 10 people I love you...Go.

 So...I went around to all my Cafemom friends and told them all I loved them, but I did it a different way. I told them who the messenger who sent me the game was. I didn't know how to just tell people I love you. But I have a very good reason why.

 Next month will be a year since I have seen my two presious children. For the last two months I have not been able to talk to them AT ALL to tell them "I love you". I didn't even get to talk to them on their birthdays...the days that I gave them their birth, NOT their step-mom. I spent Mother's day at the police station filing a police report because I could not talk to them on the phone.

Then this morning I talked to an 8 year old online. I realized how easy it would be to just talk to MY kids. They are at the age where they know exactly where I am. If they want to they can both sit down at a computer and pull up Cafemom. I want so badly to tell the most important people in my life...

"I LOVE YOU G&C, AND I ALWAYS WILL"                   Love MOM

[MommasCooCoo]

Jul. 14, 2008 at 6:10 PM

I love you....are powerful words!  We use them sooo freely compared to other cultures.  We say "I love Ice cream"  or " I love desperate housewives".  Many other countries do not understand how Americans use this term for both things and people.  i can understand how they would think this.  They believe that if we "over use " the words than they will lose their meaning. 

I disagree.  When i was told "i love you" several times today...It warmed my heart.  I had no idea that it was a game of sorts.   I wish we used the term more freely and openly to express gratitude and appreciation. 

We seem too free with our judgements and criticism...it is truly refreshing to see others being kind, generous and loving. 

I hope and pray that it is contagious!!! LOL

Thank you for your post!

 

[ndmomof4]

Jul. 14, 2008 at 6:49 PM

Cindy, I am so sorry that you are going through this...I'm sure your kids know that you love them and hopefully soon you will be able to see them again to tell them in person. I think sometimes we take for granted that the people we love will always be there to say "I Love You" to and then when the day comes that they aren't there you wish that you could just have one more moment to get in as many I Love You's as possible.

When we found out John had cancer we must have said I Love You to each other every few minutes..in fact on his last night before he passed away, he fell asleep with my arms around him as I whispered how much I loved him. I feel blessed to have had those special moments with him and knowing that he knew how much I loved him keeps me going.

I do believe that you will be with your kids again and when you do you will be able to tell them "I love You" again and again...until then I hope you know that you have found many friends here who care about you and we all love you too! :)

[bestnana]

Jul. 15, 2008 at 12:14 AM Cindy Could it be they are not around a computer Or maybe not even allowed...Yes the I love You acn be hard Yet it can be easy to say..I like Lisa said it to Tony everyday Those were the last words we both said to each other As he laid in my arms...Also they were the last words I told my mom...I know you are hurting And I wish I could help stop your pain Dont give up Hon...They know you love them and maybe they are looking for you //......Love Donna

[Teejay602]

Sep. 19, 2008 at 8:35 AM

I LOVE YOU CINDY!! And you dont have to say it back!! I am so sorry for your pain, but on that beautiful day when u are reunited with your children, you wont be able to hold back your I Love You's to anyone...I just know it...

[suzzanna]

Sep. 26, 2008 at 10:58 PM

I'm deeply sorry for your pain. Not being able to talk to your kids have to be one of the hardest things. THats so sad how a mother can't even talk to her own kids. As for saying I love you on cafe mom. I actually don't think I have even though I do I don't say it because I dont want ppl to think I'm a psycho or weird. I'm the type of person that truly cares for everyone. Maybe I should start saying it more. It may just makes someones day. To know that their is someone whom you never meet nor seen in person cares and prays for you is one of the most beautiful, loving feeling I have ever felt.

I Love You

Suzzanna

[Cenedra64]

Apr. 21, 2010 at 7:40 AM

me and my friends tell each other that all the time....Love ya see ya later!  Love you all!  It's not hard to say.  I do love my friends