My kid, age 11, getting cyberbullied!

[sammysunshine72]

DANG! I am so pissed right now!

Some little girls that my daughter really used to be quite good friends with have been calling here and leaving prank messages on the voice mail. Pretend voices with pretend accents and similar. Nothing hurtful was said or anything. I never paid it any mind. Thought it was harmless, just something kids do.

DD has been kinda fighting with them a bit, I chalked it all up to Little Girl Politics...thinking that DD was probably giving as good as she got.

Well, DD told me that they have been sending mean IMs on MSN to her and sent her an email today.

I looked in my daughter's sent messages to see if there had been any retalliation or provocation, and there were no emails from DD to them at all regarding these messages. My daughter is not internet savvy enough to delete her sent messages so, I know none were deleted.

I looked at the email and it attacked Shea's character, looks and basically called her a slut. She's 11, FFS! She's never been anywhere NEAR a boy.

My daughter is very pretty and other girls have been mean to her because of this.

Well, they called here about 20 minutes ago, looking for Shea, I advised them she had gone to walk the dog and asked if I could speak to a parent. They hung up the phone in my ear.

I called back again a couple of times, they hung up. So, I waited five minutes and did *67 to cloak our number. They answered and I asked to speak to a parent.

Her dad came to the phone and asked me to forward the email to him. I did. He read it while still on the phone with me. He was NOT IMPRESSED! He asked both girls to come up where he was.

He told one he was telling her father to come pick her up and told his DD that she was grounded til Monday, indefinitely grounded from the computer and proceded to give her old particular heck.

He told her about cyber bullying and she could charged with that if anything serious happened.

He told me that if there was anything else at all sent or if they called here, from the other girl's house or their house, to call him straightaway.

Yay for the Dad! He had his stuff together and made it right!

My DD is crushed because these girls used to be her friend and are now so mean to her. They are apparently doing this to another neighborhood girl as well. Not anymore, thanks to the Dad!

All part of growing up, I know, but, d00d, this SUCKS to see your child hurt like this.

I feel like a doorknob because I had never seen any of these IMs and we are always in the room when she's on the 'puter.

My daughter did right in showing me the email rightaway. Some kids might have hidden this because they were so hurt or ashamed.

Whew! GAH! Just had to share our story!

[singedwingangel]

Jul. 17, 2008 at 11:06 AM I am so glad you stuck up for your daughter and the fact that she felt safe in coming to you with the info. Way to go mom for standing up to the bullies. Kids today are mean and vbindictive and it is happening at younger ages. I am also proud of the dad for standing up for your daughter against his own child, KUDOS to dad. Tell your daughter not to worry about them , people like that are usually jealous because of soemthing about her that they don't have or cannot do. If she is pretty already she is competetion. Kids are "dating"younger and younger and I am so glad you are taking a stand for your child and letting her be a child as long as she can. Tell her I said boys are icky and avoid them as long as she can (trust me I know I have 3 boys lol) Give her big hugs and tell I said that GOD says she is beloved, beautiful more then a conqueror and a princess in HIS eyes and that is all that matters. He will take care of the small stuff in her life and they are definitely small stuff.

[sammysunshine72]

Jul. 17, 2008 at 11:08 AM Thank you so much for your words...and I did tell her that, just what you said...her eyes just sparkled! She is going to Bible School this week  and is very spiritual anyway and your words really hit home with her.

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[PrincessFiona]

Jul. 23, 2008 at 10:18 AM

Good Job MOM! that's what where supposed to do. I'm so glad you got this sorted out and please tell your daughter she is a very beautiful girl and that she was very smart in telling you, what was going on and what happened, so high fives to her as well.Thank you so much for sharing this with us cause now we can keep an eye out for our own children as well. Thank you and have a good day.

[sammysunshine72]

Jul. 23, 2008 at 2:00 PM

Thank you so much...She is a grand girl and we love her so much...I shared this story because it could happen to any parent or child...

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