Hi ! I could say a lot.............been through therapy for different things and that is a good place to start. If you want to shoot me a personal message, we can talk more. Ok :)

jennanicole Jul. 17, 2008 at 1:17 PM

Therapy might be a good thing for you, if for no other reason than to have a safe place to express yourself and organize your thoughts.  You sound like you need some help getting back on track with life instead of letting your grief hold you back.

By the way, men inherently can't handle "feelings".  They say they want you to be open, but they don't.  They're all idiots.

I love you!

dsteiner23 Jul. 17, 2008 at 1:20 PM

Yes, therapy could be benefical but I don't push that on anyone b/c I am the last person to ask about it. I am always in and out of counseling... 

ANYWAYS... Girl.. I am so glad we met.  You have been a lifeline for me and even with your problems you care enough to see how I am each day...even a few times a day and have such supportive, reassuring manor about you.. all I can say is I LOVE YOU!

I feel you in saying.. "I AM AT THE POINT IF I WALKED AWAY I WOULD BE OK WITH IT ..... IM PREPARED TO LIVE MY LIFE WITHOUT HIM NOW... I NEVER FELT THAT WAY BEFORE SINCE I MET HIM I HAVE BEEN ABSOLUTELY CRAZY ABOUT HIM AND NOW I FEEL LIKE WE ARENT CONNECTED......"  I feel the exact same way about my husband and I right now. All our marriage I was certain I couldn't live without him.  When Keith lost his job a yr ago.. I was kicked into High gear sort of speak.. and started a new job.. changed my life and now I have a career and can fully support me and my boys without worrying much.  Yes, our reason may be different on WHY we feel we are "OK" with being alone.. but the end result is the same. I really wish we lived closer b/c we could take that step together. But rest assured... I am always going to be here for you!  One of these days I will take a trip out there to meet up with you!

As for your man being either "black or white"... I can relate.. maybe men are just like that. I mean when I say I am fine... Keith walks away. And I am left sitting there with the world on my shoulders... crying.

((((HUGZ)))))

LOVE YA & I will always be here!

Churyl79 Jul. 17, 2008 at 1:52 PM

I am so sorry that things have gotten so hard for. I wish there were something I can say to take it all away.

mialejandra Jul. 17, 2008 at 2:48 PM

Going to therapy would be a great thing for you. You have been through a horrible trauma and you get to deal with it in your own way, and in your own time. Your mom was very important to you and was a big part of your life, and losing her is like taking a huge chunk of your own life away. You NEED to let that pain out, its part of the healing process. I think your husband is being a little insensitive to your grieving. Grieving is normal and human. The world will eventually become normal to you again, but it takes a while. Your mom will always be with you in your heart. That will never go away.

80smama Jul. 17, 2008 at 4:31 PM

Oh, Honey,  I am sorry you feel like this.  Don't think of therapy as something to be ashamed of, if you need it go for it.  Sometimes it  helps to talk without anyone offering advice or opinions, they just listen.

Big Big Hugs to you.

j

celticfaerie995 Jul. 18, 2008 at 11:53 AM

Wow, with all the death and despair I have been going through, I read this and now I feel I have failed you somehow. whats up? Talk to me.

SlumberPartyGrl Jul. 20, 2008 at 4:44 AM