Having my tubes tied

[daisybytes]

We have decided to not have anymore kids. We came to this decision after careful consideration and feel that, yes, we could love more kids but the two we have are enough to keep us happy.

I have been doing research about the procedure and so has my husband. He is weary of doing a vasectomy because he says 1 out of 3 men experience pain in there testicles for the rest of their lives. He doesn't want this and neither do I.

The research I have done on tubal ligation doesn't seem promising either. Many people say they have pain in their pelvic area and bleeding for long periods of time. As well as loss of sex drive, which I DO NOT want. I just got a sex drive after all!!! Ha.

I have tried a variety of forms of birth control and their isn't much out there that satisfies me and I feel like sterilization is the only way to be happy.

Now I am left to ponder whether I wanna have the procedure or go on with our current method of birth control until we either get pregnant again, or maybe we won't, or live with pains that could be of sterilization.

 

[deputywife]

Jul. 17, 2008 at 9:42 PM DH is getting  snipped.  I have read too much on how getting your tubes tied screws with your hormones. So we are opting for a V.

[deputywife]

Jul. 17, 2008 at 9:48 PM

maybe this might be a option for you?

http://www.essure.com/Home/Understanding/WhatisEssure/tabid/55/Default.aspx

[KennaBarron]

Jul. 18, 2008 at 5:22 PM OMG Don't do it! You never know when you'll change your mind. Yeah right now you probably don't want any and maybe even in 3 years you wont but you still never know. My hubby swore up and down he never wanted kids again and now that Givo is talking up a storm and completely totally potty trained he realizes we don't have a baby anymore and he's begging me for one. I'm totally over it know too. I got back on birth control and everything. My hubby is just gonna have to wait. I'm not in a place where I wanna be pregnant right now.

You might regret it later. you just never know. My hubby is a true testment of this.

[peggy73]

Jul. 20, 2008 at 2:19 AM I had my tubal after having my twins. They happened the third time around for me. When people ask me about having more kids, I always reply that when they come two at a time, it's time to quit. I tell myself that if I had had twins first I would have stopped there. But I see them with their brother and sister and I wonder. It's a big decision. When I had my daughter I wanted a tubal but my doctor wouldn't do it because I was too young. I was 20 when I had her. They even asked my husband's permission when I had my twins and I was 24. Yes I have a lot more pain than I did before. I also have more erratic periods. But I know this was the right decision for me.

[mama-of-twins]

Jul. 22, 2008 at 5:43 AM

i choose not to get my tubes tied. i went with an IUD. i love it. i have no pain, no pills, and no more monthly friend! i am only 32 and i do not want any more kids, but then came the question of "what if something happened to hubby and you got remarried?", i thought about it and that is how i came to the design to have an IUD.

[luvmylobster]

Jul. 28, 2008 at 11:29 AM

Richard (hubby) and I decided the same thing. He has 3 daughters from his previous marriage and after our 1st son together we decided that 4 was enough and 1 of my own (biologically) was enough for me. I made 2 appts. for Richard to get snipped but he squirmed out of both...figures huh? Anyway, when Tristen (DS) was 6 months old I found out I was preggo again! I was convinced that I couldn't love a child any more than I love my boy and I definitely wasn't ready to take care of two babies! Because I was only 29 and only had 2 kids, my Dr. asked me a million times if I was sure and told me even to the day my daughter was born that if I was on the table and changed my mind to let her know! Anyway, my daughter Brynlee was born via c-section and I had my tubes tied then. While the outcome of my pregnancies were the best thing ever, I HATED being pregnant. I never wanted to do that again!  ha ha. I just figured that if I wanted more kids (which was a slim to none chance) that we would adopt. Everyone has their own opinions about that.

So far I haven't felt any differently hormones or otherwise since my tubal. But, it's only been 4 months. I just figure if I was going to have issues it would be from the beginning.

I think the tubal was absolutely the right thing for us. Just do what's in your heart.  :)

[nancyjpfeifer]

Sep. 4, 2008 at 2:26 AM

I got my tubes tied after I had my second daughter.  No, I don't have bleedings or pain at all.  I get my normal cramps around my period, but that's it.  I have no regrets.  I think 2 kids is plenty.  I am all for quality not quantity.  I say go for it girl if you feel like you are done :)  Good luck!