Last night was family game night. My son loves the game SORRY, so he picked that out to play with us. Cale is pretty good at games, and since Grace is just starting to figure out how these games work, and be able to keep her attention on the game until it is finished, he tends to be the one to win. Last nights game, however took a bit of a different turn. We have spent some time talking with Cale about being a good sport, and being kind to others when you win. You are allowed to be happy, just not to make the other person feel bad that they lost. He had been getting pretty good at that, but when he saw some adults playing a game that where not such great sports, he got a little confused on how exactly you "win" gracefully.
As the night went on, we gently told him that he needed to say "sorry" when he bumped another player from their spot, not make fun of them. We also told him that he needs to accept it as part of the game when another person bumps him, instead of pouting. He seemed to understand and got better and better as the night went on. But then it happened, Grace got her 4th man into the home spot and won the game. He was upset and pouted a bit. I quickly told him that isn't how we lose, and I was proud of him when he said "Mommy can we just talk about it?"
I had just gotten a book about being a good sport, so I figured it was a great time to pull it out. We read the book and talked a little bit more about winning and losing. I told him about pride, and how sometimes pride about winning, hurts others, and can even hurt us. I used an example of Grace saying "haha you lost" as something that is prideful, and not what you want to do in order to be a good sport.
Cale looked at me terrified after I used that example and said "Mommy Grace can't say that!". I asked him why, and he said "because I don't want her to be hurt by pride! I like to play with her too much! She can't get hurt, we need each other!". I had to explain to him that it usually is a hurt in your heart, so she would still be around if she said that, but that she didn't say it, so he doesn't have to worry. He is a pretty good big brother... always thinking about his sister.