Guilty for not being nervous

[MommyJen]

Sarah is having her tonsils and adnoids out on Monday.  Everyone keeps telling me that she will be ok and I know that.  She had tubes when she was 1 and I was a little upset at the time, but now I am not nervous in the least.  I know this will make her better and it is a routine procedure.

 I guess it is because of Tommy.  I was a wreck when he was going in for his open heart surgery.  He came out of that just fine.  I think because of that, tonsils seem like nothing.

 Now don't get me wrong, I love my Sarah and it will be sad to see her drowsy and not feeling well after, but I am not worried or nervous about the procedure.  It is kinda making me feel guilty.

The thing that is really bothering me is that my MIL (don't get me started on her) will be here watching Sarah and Tommy for the week after her surgery, and I  have to work.  I will be off Monday when she has them out, and I am planning on taking Tuesday off (against my husband's wishes because his mom is here to take care of her...well hello...she is my baby and needs me!)  then I convinced myself that since dh has to work wed and thurs that I will work until noon and come home.  I was supposed to work all day, but I just can't bring myself to leave her with MIL. 

MIL will be another post...later...after bedtime.  LOL

 Anyway, my point is that I feel guilty for not being worried.  Is that wrong??

[mom0f3angels]

Jul. 19, 2008 at 6:39 PM As I see it, you are NOT in the wrong. You have seen your son go through what seems like the worst type of surgery. So, to you, Sarah's tonsilectomy is just nothing in comparrison.

[mom27g]

Jul. 19, 2008 at 6:59 PM don't feel guilty - it's good not to be worried that way Sarah won't be nervous. :)

[mamatoheartbaby]

Jul. 19, 2008 at 10:26 PM

I have been through an OHS and also through 3 ear tube surgeries one of which included removing the adnoids ....if my oldest was to need another set of tubes I think it would be nothing for us now. I think being a heart mom gives you a different perspective on surgeries .... as for taking time off ... she is your little girl and she will want her mommy ... oh and don't feel guilty!!

We will be thinking of you!!

[Mommato2Boys]

Jul. 20, 2008 at 10:03 AM

You shouldn't feel guilty, if anything you should feel happy that you took her to the Dr all those times she was sick with strep and now they're doing something about it so she wont get sick so often. You know she'll be fine and her seeing you be ok about the surgery makes it so much easier on her. Much better than you getting hysterical about it and then you know she would too. By not feeling guilty and being upset it shows Sarah how strong Mommy is. :) Call me if you need anything..she'll be ok though, but you already knew that.