Here are some pics of our If-Then chart. 

This chart has been a true blessing for us.  It has helped the kids and myself as well know what the consequences are for an offence.  Before it would be whatever mommy was in the mood for or had the energy to follow through with...lol.  Now they know if they argue then they will receive additional work (more chores) and/or loss of privileges (computer time, tv time, game time etc.), and then there is no arguing it.  Problems is sometimes  I hate to follow through with it and would rather just let it slide because I am to tired to deal with it all, but this will only make matters worse!  Also the chart has a verse that goes along with what the offence was, and it helps them to understand why it is wrong to do whatever it was they were doing (not just because mommy and daddy think so).  We purchased this chart from Titus2 for $6.00 and it has been so worth it!!  I plan on laminating the chart at some point but have not done so yet.

Hope this helps someone else half as much as it has me! :)

Another great thing about this chart is that you get to choose what the punishment is.  It comes with a sample of the Maxwell's chart and with pre-printed paper so you just cut and paste what you choose for each offense.

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Servi...
Jul. 20, 2008 at 10:36 PM This is awesome.  DH and I are going to sit down one night soon and come up with the "then's" for our kids this week.  I'm also doing a "Commissions" chart for earning allowance (Dave Ramsey's idea, Financial Peace U for Kids). 

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Ameri...
Jul. 21, 2008 at 3:02 PM We use a responsibility chart and they girls get $0.25 for each completed line.  So if they make their bed Mon, Tues, Thurs, Fri. Sat. and Sund. they don't get anything because they did not do it every single day.  It has done wonders and helped to establish a routine.

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Chica...
Mar. 17, 2010 at 3:27 AM

what are the brown things? Spoons?

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Jun. 3, 2012 at 5:11 PM

This is many years later but Chicaojoscafe the answer to the brown sticks is how many hits of the switch the child will recieve as punishment. Ameriplan mom and her idols the Maxwells are proponents of beating a child into submission. I would venture to guess that Ameriplan mom is probably a fan of Micheal and Debbie Pearl, a couple who writes books dedicated to (and these are their words, not mine) "break a child's will". They suggest hitting even babies to break their will and teach them to submit. Even having an unhappy countenance is cause for a hit. Children are also baited into situations where they will get hit for doing normal things (such as reach for a shiny object put just within their grasp). Its pretty disgusting and immoral. Other fans of these methods and of people like the Pearls and Maxwells are Duggar family. If you ever wonder how they manage to keep their 20 something year old daughters at home as virtual slaves and "control" the smaller ones you have to look no further than methods that involve those little brown sticks. If you beat a child starting when they are young they will develop Stockholm syndrome and eventually always obey you even to their own detriment (or become so tortured and miserable that they will self destruct). 

 

I hope no one else thinks this chart is a good idea. It would certainly be a good idea if the chart's consequences did not include hitting a child as punishment and instead only included things like the suspension of privileges or some sort of kiddy fine. The people who developed this, unfortunately, are dangerous people posing as pious and moral parents. 

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