I'm going to put this into words the best I can. I don't know how organized my thoughts will be, but these are some things that have been on my mind a lot lately.
I'm on the internet a lot. I watch the news often. I'm following the election closely and pulling for Barack Obama. I think we need a fresh start, and I think he's the guy to do it.
As I get older I get more liberal. I chalk it up to having and seeing more life experiences and understanding that real life is not at all idealistic. I'm pro-choice. I wasn't always. In fact, I was very much pro-life when I was younger. I was a member of PETA. And I'm ashamed to say that I thought homosexuality was a choice, and a sin.
So, time passed and I saw a whole different world than what I thought I would see as an adult. I was sheltered in my military life. I grew up thinking that pot was evil, homos could be "cured" and that I should never question the word of God.
I left home and saw the world for what it was... Imperfect. I had a few "aha" moments. Friends had unplanned pregnancies. They had abortions. They weren't selfish monsters. They were women who made a difficult choice. Some regretted it, others didn't.
I smoked pot and found it wasn't much different than having a few drinks. I had a hard time understanding why it was illegal. I didn't feel like a criminal.
I watched friends lose jobs and have to use public assistance. Hell, at one time Eric and I even qualified for food stamps.
I met and befriended gay people. I knew there was no way it was a choice. I believe, with 100% of my being that they were born that way.
Then there were my questions about religion. I've always been inquisitive... To the point that it drove my mom and my teachers crazy. When I was a kid I questioned the Bible and my mom got very angry with me. She told me that questioning was showing lack of faith and that was a sin. Really? Why did God give me a brain then? I lost faith in the Christian religion in my teens. I dabbled in Wicca in my 20s. I still don't know what I believe. I'm agnostic because I am not arrogant enough to think my beliefs are right for everyone.
This brings me to my point. I'm seeing a very divided country lately. It seems like its idealistic conservatives vs. empathetic liberals. We liberals seem to be "live and let live" type of people. I find this way of thinking much more realistic. Life is not perfect. Sometimes a baby is not in your cards. Sometimes people need public assistance. Sometimes people become slaves to addictions. And not everyone believes in the same god. Some people don't believe in a god at all.
Conservatives seem too rigid for my taste. Everything is so black and white. Well, guess what? Life is gray. It's ideal for someone to just say, "Well, don't get pregnant!" in the pro-life argument. Much easier said than done. Accidents happen and I don't think they're all meant to be.
"Get off your ass and work!" OK. This is the most ridiculous thing I hear with the welfare argument. Not all jobs pay well. A factory worker making $8 an hour sometimes has a hard time feeding his or her family. Guess what? That factory worker could very well climb the ranks and not need assistance down the road.
But today I saw the cruelest statement on CM regarding making abortion illegal. It was something to the effect that women who would resort to a coat hanger abortion and die from infection deserved it.
When did we become so self righteous and judgemental? When did we decide we have all the answers and the "right" way of doing things?
I'm glad I grew up and opened my mind. I feel like a much better person for doing so.
Tags: conservative, liberal, abortion, welfare, homosexuality, religion
I can totally relate! Love the post!
As far as women who are so self righteous about women (our sisters, our mothers, our daughters, our friends) dying like women all over the world from illegal abortions and believing that they deserved it, they are tiny people, with tiny minds, with a very narrow world view. I hope someday they wake up before it's too late and find out that they are not immune to the problems of this world. That "deserving" woman who dies might be their own child or sister.
This is a terrific post...sound like a very wise and compassionate person. How very true that life is not black and white. And yes, there's not always a "right" answer...more often than not it's about doing the best we can with what we have. Thanks for sharing this.
Wow, I knew I liked you, but your post just reminded me why. You're really awesome, you know that?
I find it interesting that you identify conservatives as being the ones who are "idealistic", and liberals as being more "practical", though. As a lifelong liberal, I would tell you that WE are the idealists, always looking toward a future where we, as a society, are all inclusive, and wehre we take care of our old, ill, and vulnerable members without problems. Perhaps you haven't given up on ideals, your idea of what counts as ideal has just changed?
Jeangenie and Laurelsmom,
I thought about the word "idealistic" when I was writing about this. I should explain. I was thinking about it from a conservative point of view when I used that word. See, with die-hard conservatives it seems that the world would be just peachy if everyone worked, paid little or no taxes, never needed assistance, got pregnant and had babies after their church wedding, etc.... See? Idealistic. It's a nice thought, but not realistic at all.
What would serve us all well is the ability to empathize. That is one thing I have found lacking with neo-cons. The inability to think outside the tight little box, the inability to even consider a different viewpoint.
I have come to much the same conclusion, only I'm leaning libertarian. I very much believe to each their own. I have no problem with pot (although, I prefer red wine), and believe it should be decriminalized. I am a huge proponent of self sufficiency and personal responsibility and I believe the government needs to be out of our personal business. I also believe that part of being a human is to help those who are less fortunate and those who are hitting upon hard times. I will not begrudge someone who needs a hand up.
As far as abortion -- I really hate that this is a political issue. It should be personal, between a woman and her doctor. I would not have one, nor encourage it --- but nor would I assume that my personal feelings on this issue should apply to anyone else.
Nice post, Mon. I voted popular.
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Jazzmim Jul. 20, 2008 at 11:24 PM