Never Enough....

[newmarchmommy]

I am so tired of having money for everything but me or DH and of course no one understands how much DH and I sacrifice just to make shit happen around here....

I try to be grateful for my MIL because she is a big help to us. I try to have a closer relationship with her not only because she is taking care of our LO without charging us but because I want to have a good and honest relationship with her. However, if I hear one more time, "my grandson needs clothes" or "he needs this or that" I am gonna snap!! I've realized I keep my distance just to keep peace between us. I feel like she wants explanations as to why we can't do certain things. I refuse to give her explanations on our financial decisions. She saw my SS on a pic recently and she made a comment on how her grandson needs new clothes because he is always wearing the same shirt !! I quickly said (with out thinking) well it's either his tooth (needs a new crown for the 2nd time in less than 1yr!!) or clothes but we can't do both!! her little comments like that irritate me !!

Little does she know that my SS wears that shirt all the time cause it's his favorite one!! not because he doesn't have any other ones to wear !!! She doesn't have a F'kn clue !!

We don't depend on any type of government help. We are fortunate enough that DH makes enough for us to be ok but with out my income we really are just that ok. There is no consideration for all the shit that is expected from us; Money for school supplies, clothes for the school year, new tennis shoes for SS , $30 for football camp, $60 for wrestling camp, diapers, wipes, formula, Fall/Winter clothes for the baby, our part of the hospital bill, dentist bill for SS. The never ending utilities bill and higher cost for groceries not to mention gas and all the driving around back and forth to school for FB practice!! woow...

Were do WE fit it ?? I cant remember the last time I bought ME something or DH. I have never felt like we are living beyond our means but now I am seriously reanalyzing things in my head. Granted I decided to take the summer off to be with my LO and our income is not the same as if I were working but damm can we get a break!!

I am hopeful that once I start working again in Aug. our financial situation gets better. As for my MIL I'll continue to watch my distance... I have enough shit to stress about.

[dawnmarie2012]

Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:20 AM

I know what you mean. My MIL is kind of the same way. Also sticking her nose in our business. And because she does help us out with the kids, she thinks she has a right to, ya know? Its hard for me to keep my mouth shut a lot of the times, but I know all hell would break loose if I didnt.

Cheer up! August isnt that far away! Take your DH out for a night with just the 2 of you when you get paid! It will be well worth everything you've gone through to get it!

[Seacandle]

Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:22 AM

Wow, Babe!  That's a load to get off your chest!  Money hurts and I understand how frustrating it can be to realize you haven't bought anything for yourself in awhile!  Next time just let your MIL know that if she doesn't like what your SS is wearing, then she is more than welcome to buy clothes for him.  She'll either do it or shut-up.

~C