my husband is the same way. i give him room and try not to need much and he asks me whatss wrong!! they dont know what they want themselves!

kalor, NC

alainas_mommy06 Jul. 22, 2008 at 11:21 AM

Easyily said Men r confusing!! Men never know what they want or what they got til its gone!!  don't stress ur self out over it hun!! it is hard trust me i know but it will get better!! just talk to him n let him know how u really feel!! it cant hurt!! n if he really wants to divorce you because ur tryin to b a wife n be there for him n be around him n expect him to do the same...then u dont need him!

mommyofTWINS930 Jul. 22, 2008 at 11:24 AM

i honestly feel like they're never happy... they constantly want what they're not getting... haha

CarlynCoen Jul. 22, 2008 at 11:28 AM

Growl!  Why is it always this way?  And then they accuse us of playing games, when they're the ones making it so it has to be that way!  I just want to punch every one of them in the head!

dsteiner23 Jul. 22, 2008 at 12:04 PM

Men are dumb.  When it slips away or is gone.. then all of sudden its panic mode for them and they want you back and say things will change.  ARGHH. 

Its so hard to hold back... I know.  I do it every day. 

Hang in there girl.  I don't know how things will work out but I hope for the best for YOU.  I am always here. Not going anywhere at all!

 

Churyl79 Jul. 22, 2008 at 9:29 PM

Jenn, right now he is playing with your emotions trying to see how you will react.  To him it is a game and you are the unfortunate pawn.  He is doing this to prove to himself that he can have you crawl back to him anytime he wants.   I know I have been there.   My biggest regret was playing the game with him.  So my advice to you is DONT PLAY

I love you and you know I am just a phone call away.

Jenn

celticfaerie995 Jul. 23, 2008 at 9:51 AM

I had a very similar situation with my ex-husband.  I let him drift away to the point where I could not stand it any more, then I told him he had to interact or leave.  We were then separated for a year before he finally decided he wanted a divorce.  Oddly enough, even with all the pain, getting divorced has turned out to be one of the best things that could have happened for me.  I am now happliy married to a wonderful man.  Good luck.  PM me if you want to chat.

Kilhara Jul. 24, 2008 at 11:31 AM

Jenn, I love you sweetie and it pains me to see you have to go threw all of this. But I know in the end you will do whats right for you even if it breaks your heart. You need to do what's right for you and no one else. He is playing games and you DO NOT need that. Let the game be over so you can move on. I love you and am glad to have you in my life. It's crazy how close we have become and I am thankful for it everyday! I hope you never forget that you can call me DAY or NIGHT and I will be here for you! :)

kacrawford85 Jul. 24, 2008 at 10:08 PM

He just wants you happy and he is to young to know how to do that. He is still in the selfish stage of life and that doesn't allow him to truly see you are still grieving and that he doesn't need to fix it. He just needs to love you unconditionally. Have hope he will mature and grow in time. You are both in a difficult stage of life. I love you and I am always praying for you.

abntlife Aug. 7, 2008 at 2:49 AM