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It happened again...
- Jul 22, 2008 at 3:37 PM
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So this is how my lunch goes…
I go to Panera Bread. Seeing there is a line forming, I see a head pop out at a distant register saying “I can help someone down here”. Being the next in line, I scoot over to the open register to give my order.
LADY: What can I get for you and that baby?
ME: (I’m not hearing so well in there because there is a lot of noise~ but I think, surely she didn’t say what I thought she said because I don’t have a baby with me, nor is there a child standing near me. Chalking it up to my funky hearing, I give my order). I’ll have the Smokehouse Turkey Sandwich, please.
LADY: You want an apple with that, right?!?! (giving me the eye)
ME: Um, sure. I guess an apple would be fine. I was thinking more chips, but whatever. (I’m thinking she’s just pushing the apples for the day, so whatever. I’m flexible)
LADY: Chips are too salty and you’ve got enough carbs with the sandwich.
ME: (looking confused) Oh. Well, okay then.
LADY: You know you’re not going to argue with me because you know I’ll win. HAHAHA!
ME: Yeah, right. I can tell I’m not going to argue with you.
LADY: So is this for here or to go?
ME: Oh, this is to go, but I’d also like a Frozen Lemonade.
LADY: Of course you do. Aren’t you going to stay here and talk with me?
ME: (not on your life and I’m feeling uncomfortable) Um, no. I have to get back to work.
LADY: (leaning over the register) WORK?! Why are you still working? How long are they making you work? What kind of work do you do?
ME: (slightly catching on by now I decide rather than embarrass the both of us, I’m just going to go along with it). Oh, well, I…um. You know. I just answer phones and stuff like that.
LADY: Oh, so they don’t make you stand or anything, that’s good. When you gonna have that baby?
ME: Um…I don’t…ah, gosh, where is that thing…(shuffling through my purse)
LADY: Well, I like you so I’m gonna give you a cookie too, what kinda cookie you want?
ME: Um, anything with chocolate I guess (wondering if I’m going to have to pay for it, but thankfully no).
LADY: Well, you take care of that baby!
ME: Thanks…will do…thanks (as I’m edging away wanting to crawl under a table)
HORRIFYING. And you know, like 2 hours after I'm wondering if the outcome would have been different if I'd have said something else instead of going along with it. I'm sure I wouldn't have gotten that free cookie though. I coulda bitch-slapped her, but I'm not sure that would have gotten my point across. What is my point anyway? I know I’ve gained some weight since Addison was born, but I certainly don’t look 9 months pregnant! I work out 5-6 times a week for an hour to hour and a half then come home and go swimming in our pool. I’ve been doing this since around March I think and I haven’t lost any weight. It’s pretty much a lost cause and I try not to dwell on it much. I am what I am. I happen to be girthy. Not for lack of trying, but my body does not shed pounds well. I've struggled with my weight my entire life...even childhood. My cousins were all skinnier than me, so they didn't hesistate to make fun. I was also at the gym last night and some old biddies were working out next to me. The one says to the other “look at this” and pinches a tiny bit of old leathery skin on her nearly flat stomach. “I never had to work out even after I had my daughter, but now…”. Her daughter has to be in her 40’s or 50’s. PUHLEEZ! Guess what bitch…you’re old! I couldn’t work out near them anymore. Anyway, thanks for reading another rant. People are just rather rude sometimes.
Comments:
You have got to be kidding me!!!! I would have bitch slapped her. Don't beat yourself up, a lot of people struggle with weight everyday. My husband has to watch everything he eats or he can gain weight very quickly. He just started dieting again because he gained 12 pounds in 10 days. The way I see it is everyone has their ideal body. Some people are skinny, some people are average, some people are larger....what is your ideal size? And I don't mean what you would like it to be....what weight are you that you feel good physically, have lots of energy, etc. That is what you try to get to or maintain. Everyone needs exercise and to eat healthy regardless of size. Just remember that and keep your head up!!!
OH WOW...I would have slapped her, lol!! But then you wouldn't have got the free cookie!!
hmmmm, no, I would have to say something to the idiot behind the counter. although, now that I think about it, if it had happened to me it would have been a payback for this stupid incident waaaaaay back in high school. at graduation, actually. I was so excited to see a friend who had graduated the previous year and her husband - she was one of my favorite people in choir - and she had actually brought me a gift! she'd always been a little overweight but she had gained more since I'd seen her last, and well... she really did look like she was 4 or 5 months along. OOPS. fortunately, she's so good natured she just laughed when I asked when she was due and said, "no, honey, I'm just FAT!!!"
and my dear, loving, insensitive mom always comments that I'm her big girl. thanks, ma. just because I weigh more than 100 pounds soaking wet... and I have a child to raise, no time to jog for an hour and lift weights for 2 like my childless sister... incidentally , I wanted to bitch-slap my sis when she insisted she was "getting fat - I can't fit in a size 8 anymore!" um, for those of you unfamiliar with Ms. Drama Major, she's 51. ahem.
Wow Xie...you are a good person with the patience of a saint! Don't look at the scale go by how you feel. If you feel good then leave it at that. The anorexic look is out and having more curves is definitely more healthy and more attractive! I've seen the video of you in your bathing suit and there is not a damn thing wrong with you and you certainly don't look pregnant!! Don't waste your willpower on food when you need it to deal with the ignorant bitches of this world. Hope you enjoyed the cookie ; ))
I would have bitch slapped her....and then TAKEN the cookie. I always say if you don't see the baby crowning, don't say anything! And the fact that she just kept going on and on.....oh lord. You are a better person than I...I had someone say something one time to me at our local bookstore.....and I gave her the look of death as I informed her that no, I was not pregnant. She was embarrassed and I don't think she will ever say anything to me again....unless I tell her first. Don't fret about it....people are stupid.
The Nerve! My God, some people are dumb. If it makes you feel any better, I must have been been 7+ months along before anybody at work (who didn't hear my announcement) said anything to me about being pregnant. That hurt just as bad in my book. I know that my weight went up and down, and that there is a taboo about mentioning a pregnancy if you're not sure, but come on. I was obviously pregnant! Congratulate me you idiots!
It truly blows me away how people are so insensative! Believe me I have worked a ton of retail in my younger years and never once said the wrong thing especially when it comes to stuff like that! Matter of fact a client of mine had asked me when I was due about 6 months after I had our son....and so I had to say..oh well I had him 6 months ago! I think I chalk it up that people are neurotic when they think someone is pregnant or is pregnant. It seemed everytime I had went to Walmart some stranger wanted to touch my belly & I was way too nice to say no......Or they tell me wacky stories about their children I had no desire even know....I had went to Bed Bath & Beyond to return something and she asked what I was having and I said a son...and she went on to proceed to tell me that yeah..I wish I had a daughter yadda yadda yadda and I was like oh...well maybe next time.....and she said well one of my sons is gay so its almost like have a daughter....and I was like...man...what do you say to this.....I would hate to say the wrong thing..I mean..do I say...I loved going out with gay people because they had the best parties and best alcohol....or do I say wow....you must be dissappointed...so I just said..well..I guess sometimes that happens......and I left in a hurry!...CRAZY!
But I guess long story short I am so sorry you had to go through that and nor that you should! People should just mind their own business! I think you look great!
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Wow. I don't think I could have gone along with that, free cookie or not. Some people are just clueless. I am right there with you with the weight issues. After having my last baby. I lost 33 pounds and have not budged since. It doesn't matter what I do or eat. It just sits there. Sucks but you also don't need a total (ignorant) stranger pointing it out either. You are much kinder than what I would have been. :)
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