Everything Happens for a reason

[kim8901]

 Everyone tells me..."Everything happens for a reason" No body can tell me the reasons... What is the reason why I hurt so bad, Why do you have to go through so much pain to find happiness...if you ever really do find happiness...what is the reason for all the pain.. Why did this happen to me...Reason? My ex is addicted to the internet. He seeks out women and tells them lies on the internet.. Mostly BBW women.. He has no intentions of meeting these girls he says.. He tells them he loves them and stuff and he says it's for attention...so watch out if you play pogo..and if you are on BBW datesites...he will get ya. Why do our hearts ache so bad..Why do I feel so consumed with hurt some days it even hurts to speak. Why??? What is the reason for all the pain. Whats the Reason that men fall out of love with us, and string us along..why is it that we give our whole heart and souls to them, and they just shut off their feelings and walk away. why is it so hard to pick up the pieces of yourself and move on..What is the reason? Most important...what is the reason I still love him and would take him back. Why do I love him. He has made it clear that he does not want me...And I can't accept that. Why do I self Distruct? What is the reason.. I was so hurt to find out that my ex is still talking to internet women and already dating after being broken up for a lil over 2 months. I went out with a great friend last night and we slept together..I self distructed... And the bad thing is...I don't feel bad about it... I don't know if I'm in love with my ex any more...but I do know that I love him...and I hate him.. Why can't I just not love him...why will I always love him...He tells me he will always love me cause I'm our son's mom...I don't want him to love me and I don't want to love him. Why is he the person I think about all the time, why is he the last one I think about at night. Why is he the one that races through my head when I toss and turn at night...What is the Reason....I know basically the reason is because I deserve better..but why do I have to give so much to get better...Why do I have to die with pain..just to be happy. I want so bad just to anderstand..why life is like this. This hurt destroys people...Please tell me the "REASON"

[GothyMama]

Jul. 23, 2008 at 9:16 AM

I know what you mean.  I really hate it when people say "everything happens for a reason".  It doesn't help at all.  They think it will help, but how could it?  The simple reason that he's doing this to you is that he obviously has no regard for your feelings.  I don't think it has anything to do with "God's plan" or whatever.  I really really can't stand when people use that phrase though.  It's horrible.  They use it for anything.  Someone has a miscarriage "Well everything happens for a reason".  That's nice.  That's just what someone who just lost their baby, possibly after months or years of TTC wants to hear, right?  NO!  It isn't what ANYONE wants to hear, it may not even be true!  I'm so sorry you're going through all this, and I'm sorry people keep telling you that asinine phrase!

[TalithaStarry]

Jul. 23, 2008 at 9:17 AM

I sooo hate it when ppl say "everything happens for a reason" like it makes you feel better or something. Well in the past when I would suffer from a broken heart I would sing and pray. My flesh did not want to do this but it was either wallow in my grief or get up dust myself off and start dancing. God has sent me a beautiful man after two failed marriages and it is because I chose to sing through the pain. I hope you start to feel better if you need to talk feel free to msg me.