VENT!

[motherofpearl]

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Do I seriously not do enough around here? What am I doing wrong that I deserve more messes & more stress? DH says that I complain too much & I need to do more around the house before he’ll even think about helping out. SO as I’m doing “more” I also get to clean up spilled salad dressing, glue on the steps, BB’s dumped all over the upstairs, milk in the living room, ALL the books off the shelves, toys throw out the windows, ........and the best part, I find a half melted toy car in their room. That’s all I need, my house to catch on fire again because the kids are in some sort of rebellion stage. Then, if I don’t have the house spic & span by the time DH comes home I get to put up with his bad mood. AND I get to keep all this to myself cuz DH doesn’t want to hear it, “I have it so good, what would I have to complain about”!! I’m not saying I have it bad, yes I stay home & don’t have to work, but I stay home with 3 people all under the age of 9, ALL DAY. DH leaves before 8am and for most of the week doesn’t get home til at least 7pm, half the week I’m by myself until 9pm. I know its not his fault, he sells cars, everyone has to work those hours, but a little understanding would go a long way! And it doesn’t help when he calls 5, 6, 7 times a day to bitch about work & give me more things to do & ask if the house is clean EACH time he calls. “NO! I’m sitting on my ass doing nothing!!” I swear that’s exactly what he thinks. I’ve gone on strike before but that only makes thing worse not to mention the house looks like crap, and of course, its my fault! So, I’m gonna shut my trap, go clean up the million of other messes the kids have just made in the past 5 minutes & act like the perfect little mother & housewife everyone expects. Wish me luck!

[MichieMom]

Jul. 23, 2008 at 5:39 PM

Good luck with that.  I went on strike myself and it didn't help either.  What opened my DH's eyes was my being hospitalized for a month.  He realized there is so much more to it than what he thought.  I hope it doesn't come to something like that for your DH to appreciate and help out with you!

[NicolleE.]

Jul. 23, 2008 at 5:55 PM

Hmmm....I am in a similar situation, my man is a finance director for a car company and his hours are the similar as well (9am-9pm). He once said that, I had it easy as well, that all I do is watch television and "play" on the computer. At first, I would get upset and we would argue about it but, I know what I do and what is the point in arguing with him about it? So, I let go and let GOD. I do not expect anything from my SO in the way of underdstanding it's okay because I have no clue what he has to deal with at work, I think he sits in his office and bosses everyone around all day but who knows, he thinks I have it easy, I think he has it easy, whatever. I just do what I need to do and give the rest to GOD. (If I internalize some of the things my SO says, I would probably be frustrated as well.) Anyways, I wish you all the best.

[crazybeemom]

Jul. 23, 2008 at 11:35 PM

I know how you feel. I took on babysitting to make extra money and to help family out. I have 9-10 kids in my house under the age of 9. My DH bitches because his dinner is not cooked when he comes home. Do you think he would help even with our kids so I can cook him a good meal hell no he is to tired from his day at work. He goes to bed at 10 and is back up at 6am for work. Mean while I wait up till 1am for a mother and get to bed at 130 or 2am and then get back up around 6am with our 3month old and then the other kids come at  8am but I never get a break or get a meal cooked for me when he is off every sunday. Why are men such ASSHOLES that think they are the only ones who have it rough!!

Hope it gets better for you! I will keep you in my thoughts!