Why can't things go wrong when my husband IS home?

[Nanigirl19]

The boys and I are surviving our first deployment pretty well. Sure they have their moments when they ask for Daddy but thankfully they are still at an age where toys or treats distract them pretty easily. What I don't seem to understand is WHY everything seems to go wrong when Mike is gone and never when he is home? A week after he left, I had a miscarriage due to stress. It was sad but I recovered quickly simply because I wasn't that far along and I had other priorities to deal with. A few weeks later, Noah was admitted into the hospital for 2 days for croup. A few months after that, Keagen had to have tubes put in his ears. A little while later, it turns out that Keagen is allergic to EVERYTHING. Shortly thereafter, our washing machine breaks and leaves a HUGE water stain on my kitchen ceiling. All of this happens while I was still working full time and then my pediatrician springs it on me that he thinks Noah is suffering from separation anxiety because of the deployment. So then I needed to quit my job, my principal was ready to kill me and all the while I am consumed with guilt for letting parents down. Later on down the road the garbage disposal breaks, the downstairs toilet starts to leak, I needs 2 root canals. SURPRISE! It's now time for R&R. It was two weeks of pure bliss where NOTHING went wrong in the house. Sure enough, one month after he leaves I find out that I'm pregnant...AGAIN. Pregnancy has never been a big deal for me so God decided to throw in a curveball and give me the most AWFUL morning sickness ever. It's not even morning sickness. It's all day long sickness and to boot I can barely keep my eyes open because I am always so tired. Too bad my little boys didn't get the memo on letting mommy sleep through the night because my once sound sleepers now wake at the drop of a hat. Mike is scheduled to come home in the next few months and I'm sure everything will go well. I can almost guarantee that once he leaves again, the house will fall apart.

[SarahJean70]

Aug. 6, 2008 at 10:35 PM

Oh, Danielle, you didn't let anyone down. We were just so grateful for the time Jack had with you. Your family should always come first and anyone who doesn't get it, well 'ef em. Sorry you've had such a tough time. You've certainly carried yourself with dignity.