I'm fairly new to CafeMom...few months I guess.  But I'm feeling a bit, well, overwhelmed, and just want to write about it...it should be a blog, I know, but, well...here goes.

Society is really starting to scare me...I have 8 children, 6 of my own and 2 brand new step children. All ranging in the ages of 18 to 6. Society has had more influence on them than I as a mom could ever.  At least it seems so AT THE MOMENT.

*WHEW* I started this because I made a journal post and got bashed for my honesty instead of getting a little help that I was looking for.  Everyone has done something wrong and has to carry that guilt themselves and doesn't need anyone else to rub their nose in it. But what scares me is the way moral values have started to change over the past few years (drastically) but over several years (subtlety) Family values have changed. More and more people are waiting to have their fortunes rather that the real fortune of having a family.  They are vain and arrogant and self-centered. I hear, more often than not, from the "new" generation (my older kids ages) that they don't want kids because it would cut into their financial dreams. They want a partner simply to make ends meet or to have a...a...Boat! I don't know...So few of them have dreams of family anymore. I'm not a smart woman like some, but I do know that, WHATEVER your belief's are, we, as humans are here to love and be loved, to live life as best we can, for ourselves, yes, but to TEACH...I'm not making any sense because I am so frustrated and have so much to say and don't know the right way to say it...Not everyone is cut out for a family, I understand that that isn't part of their PLAN, but sheesh, don't be selfish and keep life like you own it and that you are living the HIGH life because you chose not to have children. Make sure it's a REAL reason, not a selfish one! (I feel I can say that safely since this is a "mommy" site)

I don't know what I believe as far as the bible or religion, or God or anything, I don't...it was shoved and forced down my throat and I always thought that a loving God wouldn't want that.  He would want us to live and love and do well for others as well as ourselves and LEARN...people are so SELFISH and MEAN! I've even seen some of the posts/replies from some mom's and it makes me SICK to think they feel so righteous instead of maybe picking the problem apart and saying, hey, ok, you know, you are a little lost, let's help you get back on track...you know someone committing adultery or abandoning their kids or an alcoholic a drug user or someone in jail or...you can't JUDGE them because there is a REASON behind it and why they are.  You'd be amazed at what lonliness can cause...I don't like those ideas any better than anyone else, but when someone comes to YOU for help, you can't just right away jump down their throats, you have to take a breath and say "ok, this is bad, how can I HELP SAVE THIS PERSON???"  What if your child was one of those people? What if YOU were? Or a family member? You wouldn't give up until all options had been tried and exausted. Why can't that be with a stranger?

Society is vain.  It is unconscious. It is selfish and self-centered. How many women/mom's are on this site compared to how many PEOPLE are in the world? Most women on here I have noticed to be what I am...fun loving and hopeful and giving and understanding. Everyone is entitled to their opinion...it's the HOW you put it in words that makes someone want to listen or even NEED to listen. People all over need HELP from others, YOU do, I do, THEY do...not one person is without that singular most valuble NEED...UNCONDITIONALLY

My children are each and of themselves a seperate and wonderful individual. I am biased when it comes to them, of course, but if they make a mistake or screw up, I CAN admit it. Society is too easily judgmental in all ways.  They jump at the chance to point out a fault or are predujice because of the clothes or hair color. Am I a bad mother because I have a tattoo? Because I used to smoke and drink and party like a rockstar? Or am I a "cool" mom who knows boundaries and yet can live life? DId I set a bad example for my kids? Or did the friends they chose? Did the divorce? Or their alcoholic "buddy" of a dad? Do you shelter them or teach them?  Circumstances in themselves make your life. Do you believe things happen for a reason? I don't know...all I know is that I myself, I feel that we are losing faith.  Faith in ourselves, in our families, in our children...in life. Don't let the circumstances of life control you, take control, teach your kids and yourself and husband and whoever else! Right and wrong isn't in the bible or koran or whatever book is out there, it's in your heart, and if we don't start with OUR kids, what is in the future for THEM??

I'm AFRAID the world has stopped caring about ITSELF!! And I could cry for us...

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