I CANT BELIEVE THIS....

[NEL1222]

MY HUSBAND HAVE SOME FRIENDS, A COUPLE WITH 3 KIDS. THEY ARE FRIENDS FOR 10 YRS, SINCE ALWAYS MY HUSBAND PREFERS TO BE WITH THEM, NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAT GOING TO THEIR HOUSE EVERY WEEKEND. THIS PPL ARE TO DEMANDING LIKE IF THEIR ARE HIS OWNER. THEY GOT TO THE POINT WHEN THE WOMAN TOLD ME ONE NIGHT: " OHH I NEED TO CALL HEINER TO MOVE THE CHRISTMAS TREE CAUSE I DONT LIKE WERE IT IS" AND I TOLD HER, TELL UR MAN TO DO IT! AND SHE RESPONDED I PREFER HEINER TO DO IT.. I GOT SO MAD, THAT IF I HAD THE CHANCE TO PUNCH HER IN THE NOSE, MAN..... WELL, THINGS ARE BAD THIS LAST YEARS, CAUSE THE SAME THING. THEY CALLING, MY HUSBAND RUNNING TO THEIR HOUSE, ME ALONE WITH MY 3 KIDS ALL THE TIME, AND THE DAYS HE TAKE US OUT, THE GUY CALLING TO ASK HIM TO GO TO HIS HOUSE TO HELP HIM DO WHATEVER,, I SPOKE TO MY MIL AND SHE IS PRETTY UPSET CAUSE MY HUSBAND ALWAYS BLAMES EVERYTHING ON ME, THAT I SOFOCATE HIM TO MUCH, THAT I BITCH A LOT, ETC, AND HOW I'M NOT GOINT TO DO THAT IF I DONT SEE HIM.. WE WENT TO NJ FOR 2 WEEKS AND I WAS THE HAPPIER WOMAN EVER, HE WAS THE HUSBAND I MARRIED 5 YRS AGO. KIND, PERFECT, OHH MAN,, WE EVEN MADE PLANS TO MOVE THERE, SO WE CAME "TO START PLANNING OUR MOVING" BUT, NOT EVEN A WEEK LATER, HE WOKE UP AT 7:30 TO GO HAVE BREAKFAST WITH HIS "FRIENDS" AND CAME AROUND 12PM CAUSE I CALLED AND STARTED GOT NUTS. SO WE WENT OUT TO THE MALL. WE HANG WITH MY BROTHER IN LAW AND HIS WIFE. WE WERE SO HAPPY, THEN THE CELL RANG.... " HEINER, ARE U COMMING TO HELP ME GO GET THE TREAD MILL????" AND I WAS LIKE ,, HELL NOOO, WE JUST GOT HERE. AND U SPENT 5 HOURS THERE, U R NOT GOING AND TELL HIM TO STOP CALLING WHEN U R OUT WITH US, THATS NOT FAIRRRRRRR!!! WELL, HIS BROTHER WAS THERE, AND SAID, HEINER WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THIS PPL THAT THEY DONT EVEN LET U BE WITH US? WE JUST CAME.... SO THAT GET MY HUSBAND MORE MAD, IN OUR WAY HOME, LIKE 15 MINS AFTER THE FREAKING CALL HE WAS MAD AT ME, YELLING AND BLAHH BLAHH TO ME. AND TOLD ME THAT I JUST BOTTER HIM,,, BLAH BLAH,, AND I HOLD IN TO MY "WHY HE ALWAYS CALLS WHEN HE KNOWS U R WITH ME?" HE NEEDS TO HAVE MORE RESPECT. THEN HE JUMPED AND SAID THAT IF I THINK HE IS GONNA CHANGE  IF WE MOVE TO NJ, I'M WRONG ( BUT YES HE IS PRETTY DIFFERENT WHEN HIS FRIENDS ARE NOT AROUND OR MAD AT HIM, HE IS THE PERFECT HUSBAND EVER) AND THEN HE TOLD ME... I'M GONNA HAVE FRIENDS THERE TOO AND I'LL BE GOING OUT NO MATTER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT, U CAN KILL UR SELF THERE AND I'LL STILL GOING OUT, BUT HE KNOWS THAT ALL MY FAMILY IS THERE, SO HE KNOWS BETTER TO DO THINGS LIKE THIS, BUT HERE IN GA HE DOES CAUSE I'M ALONE, WELL NOT TOO MUCH CAUSE HIS BROTHER IS ON MY SIDE, AND HIS MOM, EVERYBODY KNOWSSS.. BUT THIS PPL HAVE LIKE A SPELL ON HIM OR SOMETHING, GOSHHH CAUSE HE DONT ACEPT HE IS WRONG. NO MATTER THE BROTHER, THE MOM, MY FRIENDS TELLS HIM,, HE IS BLIND WITH HIS FRIENDS TO THE POINT THAT HE ASK ME TO DIVORCE CAUSE SATURDAY I GOT MAD CAUSE HE WOKE UP AND STARTED TO BITCH AT ME AND LEFT AT 10AM. WHEN I DECIDED TO GO TO THEIR HOUSE, HIS TRUCK WAS THERE, BUT THEY WERE OUT AS A FAMILY ON THEIR EXCUSE ME 2007 PATHFINDER, CAUSE THEY PLAY THEY ARE RICH, CAUSE THEY HAVE A BIG HOUSE AND NEVER WANT TO HAVE CHEAP CARS, AND THEY DONT EVEN HAVE US PAPERS HERE. WELL, HE WAS DRIVING THE CAR, ALL THE CUTE FAMILY HAVING SO MUCH FUN, WHILE ME AND MY KIDS WERE ALONE! THEN HE GOT OUT OF THE SUV AND CAME TO MY CAR, ACTING ALL OFFENDED CAUSE I EMBARRASED HIM AND SHOWED THEM HOW LOW I WAS.. I CURSED THEM OUT, AND HIS FRIENDS WERE HIDING IN THEIR SUV (DANG XHICKENS), AND THE GUY MOVE TO THE DRIVER SIT TO GET INSIDE THE GARAGE, THEN WHEN THE GARAGE DOOR WAS 1/2 CLOSE THEY CAME OUT, CAUSE THEY KNOW THEY ARE BREAKING MY FAMILY,, CAUSE THEY KNOW I'M RIGHT THEY KNOW THEY DESERVED TO BE AT THE ER OR DEAD BY THIS TIME.....  BUT ME TO KEEP MY FAMILY TOGETHER LET THEM DO ALL THIS TO ME, TILL THIS WEEKEND, SO  HE SAID THAT I NEED TO LEAVE MY HOUSE,,, BUT HE IS STAYING WITH MY KIDS, HHAHAHHAH ARE HE OUT OF HIS FREAKING MIND, AND I PROVE HIM YESTERDAY THAT MY KIDS LOVES ME, CAUSE HE TRIED TO TAKE THEM OUT TO EAT AND THEY REFUSED TO GO CAUSE HE WASNT TAKING ME!!! MY 3 BABIES TOLD HIM NOOOOOOOOOOOO WE WANT MOMMYYYY I WAS SO PROUD OF THEM, SO I TOOKED THEM TO THE LAKE AND WE HAD SO MUCH FUN, AND HE GOT SURPRISE WHEN HE CALLED HIS BROTHER AND FOUND OUT WE ALL WERE AT THE LAKE. I KNOW HE GOT UPSET CAUSE I DIDNT STAYED HOME CRYING CALLING HIM TO COME HOME!!! I NEED TO QUIT THIS FREAKING CRAP. IF HE WANTS TO MOVE, OK HE CAN GO,, BUT I KNOW HIS FRIENDS ARE NOT GOING TO KEEP HIM LIVING IN THEIR HOUSE THE EASY LIFE HE HAVE AT MY HOUSE. WHEN THEY COOKED HE CANT EAT LIKE IN HERE, THAT HE EATS ALL HE WANTS, HELL NO THERE THEY TELL HIM HE TOO FAT, ACTUALLY THEY HUMILIATE HIM A LOT, EVEN IN FRONT OF ME, SO,,, I DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT IS HIS PROBLEM, THAT HE WANTS TO BE THERE ALL THE TIME, AT LEAST I HAVE MY BROTHER IN LAW AND HIS WIFE HERE 2 HOSES DOWN FROM MINE SO I'M NOT THAT LONELY... AND PLEASE LADIES, PRAY GOD FOR HIM TO OPEN HIS EYES AND STOP HIS FRIENDSHIP WITH THIS PPL. I FEEL SO BAD FOR MY BABIES CAUSE THEY KNOW THAT DADDY LIKE ANTHONY HOUSE BETTER THAN OURS.... I FELL SO SAD,, BUT I NEED TO STICK UP FOR OURSELVES......

THANKS FOR READING MY POST!

[MARIE051521]

Jul. 28, 2008 at 11:18 AM

Diantre Nell esta situacion esta fuerte y me imagino como te sientes... Bueno mi marido no tiene nada de amigos solo se la pasa conmigo perooooo cuando se pone con sus bicherias yo lo ignoro como Shittt me voy sola con las nenas y mi cuñada y por joderle la vida duermo en el cuarto con las nenas aunque me muera por dormir con el , le cocino y lo dejo que se sirva si quiere por lo menos a mi eso me funciona y los ves despues como pollito detras de mi... Trata de hablar con tu esposo sientate y dile como te sientes y si no te hace caso y le importa un bledo pues cuando se large con su gente ni lo llames aunque te estes reventando del coraje y vistete y vete como hisistes o manda pal carajo a toda esa gente o ellos o tu no me joda.. Realmente no se que mas decirte solo habla con el...

[YAJALEX]

Jul. 29, 2008 at 1:14 PM

co~o NELL yo no me imaginaba que tenias problemas asi con tu esposo pero esta rara su actitud verdad y mas si dices que lo utilizan mucho,mira amiga yo pienso que la vida es muy corta y  que la vida esta durisima habla con el y has lo que MARIE051521 dice ignoralo diviertete tu con los nenes sola sin el yo se que esto debe de ser durisimo intentalo a ver que pasa y si las cosas siguen igual analiza tu relacion tu eres joven y bonita y mereces mas.??? valdra la pena??? aveces los hombres necesitan un sustito para que se den cuenta de lo que tienen y que lo pueden perder.ya no le reclames esas son cosas que le deben salir a el EL PASAR TIEMPO CON SU FAMILIA no se debe forzar y si el prefiere estar con esos amigos dejalo....no soy muy buena dando consejos. pero ya sabes donde encontrarme si me nesecitas y te lo digo yo no estoy de acuerdo con el divorcio pienso que hay que intentarlo todo antes de eso asi hice yo con mi primer matrimonio pero por mas que yo hablaba el nunca cambio asi que lo deje y no me arrepiento ahora estoy con alguien que me valora y me da todo el carino que yo necesito.....cuidate amiga estare al pendiente de ti aver que pasa. 

[Susan0976]

Jul. 31, 2008 at 5:38 PM

Wow, his relation with that other family is strange...

I'm sorry that he doesn't see what a wonderful family he has and that he feels the need to be around his friends so much.

I would advise you to pray for him. Pray that God opens his eyes so he can see what he is missing out on and that his place is with his own family.

You and your children will be in my prayers....