Maybe don't do it so dramatically.  I'm a big hater of harsh doctors.  Maybe try staying in her room until she falls asleep but every night move farther and farther away from the bed. Or (if she's used to sleeping in your room) move her bed in there and do the same until she is back in her room.  or just ignore your doctor and do whatever makes YOU happy. 

velvetluv21 Jul. 28, 2008 at 10:25 PM

My doctordidn't tell me but we are weaning Hunter our of "night visiting." He is 3 1/2 and for about a year now would come into our room in the middle of the night. Now if he tries to come in, I send him back. There has been some tears, and some nights where I felt surely I would nd him sleeping by my door in the morning instead of in his bed, but he is doing well. And so am I. No more of him stealing my blanket and my pillow, pulling my hair as his comfort to fall asleep, kicking my in his sleep etc. It makes us a much happier family in the end. I hope it all works out for you.

Rshcraig Jul. 28, 2008 at 10:26 PM

I had this problem while trying to wean my son off his bottle. He used it to go to sleep (gasp, I know...BAD idea for anyone doing the same, it's SO hard to get it to stop!). The doctor told me I just needed to give him a sippy and throw out the bottle and let him cry. He cried himself to sleep for 2 weeks straight...then I guess he gave up and used his sippy (yes, I know, still bad.). But the point is, it does work eventually...some kids are a little more stubborn than others. I literally had to leave the house while he was crying. His dad would stay with him while I sat outside. I couldn't stand to hear it. I would just go outside and cry right along with him.

manamott Jul. 28, 2008 at 10:33 PM

I agree with velvetluv21. You need to do what works for you.  I co-slept with all my kids and I was never keen on the cry it out method.  It just seems too mean & I want to build confidence and trust with my kids not the idea that when they need/want me I will ignore them.  What worked for me with my most difficult transitioner was letting him fall asleep in my bed with the understanding the when he woke up he would be in his bed. If he woke up in the middle of the night he was walked back to his room and me or his dad would stay there until he fell asleep.  My daughter would fall asleep in her room with me or dad at her bed.  The middle of the night was handled the same.  My thoughts are this, they wont go to college needing to sleep in our beds and they are only little for so long.  I cherish the nights that I kept Shiyanne in the bed with me when her dad didnt realize she had come in.  You will need to live with what you do or dont do, so either way, make yourself and your baby happy!

Joyladywolf Jul. 30, 2008 at 1:39 PM