I need some advice, please keep it kind though.

[LizWillJelly]

My son is 13 years old, he is being mean and spiteful toward me and his sisters.  Dad is away right now with work in a different city. (Which is temporary)  My biggest problem is that he does not want to do his school work, (He is Homeschooled such as our two daughters are as well)  he would rather play, (and because of his playing he is not finished with last years subjects so he could have a lengthly break as his lil. sister is having)  I have already taken his computer, and I so want to take away all the rest of his toys but when I go to do that he says that I dont love him because I take away his toys and that he hates me for taking away his computer. 

Besides that he likes to act like he is the dad to my youngest, she goes to get herself something to drink or snack on and he has to run to get involved and the next thing I hear is her yelling or screaming at him.  I tell him to leave her alone yet he does not.  He will start at her again and again when I am not in the room, 

I cannot be next to him all day long to make him do his school work or to even make him be nice to his sister. 

Any advice would be appreciated, I know some one out in Mom land has had these problems one or the other and has succeeded in getting through this .....Please be kind though I do not want to be ragged at, just want advice or opinions.

 

[Kiter]

Aug. 1, 2008 at 2:14 PM

would you be willing to let him do his homework or not and then he will pass or fail based on what he decides to do?

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[mcqueenmom]

Aug. 1, 2008 at 2:16 PM

i am no help but i wish you well and i hope things get better

[forRobyn]

Aug. 1, 2008 at 2:16 PM

I think your son is pushing his limits with you.  Don't back down.  Take away his toys if that is what his actions require of you. 

Also, have you talked about how he feels with his dad being away.  Maybe some alone time with just the two of you is what he needs.

 

[Kiter]

Aug. 1, 2008 at 7:16 PM

I would venture to guess (being the  mom of 2 teenage boys) that cntinuing to take his stuff away will only make him close up more- and it hasn't worked yet. Time to find a new way to deal with it. It's hard finding way to handle teenagers.  When they are 3- standing them in the corner and taking away their little red hotwheel for the day works wonders. Now- they don't care and think we hate them.

 

Does he get to talk to his dad often? If you have  couple weeks till school starts, maybe you can fly him to be with his dad for a week.

[iamnowhere]

Sep. 10, 2008 at 9:41 PM

I home school ny two teens boy 16; girl 15. It is hard to keep them at their studies.I hate to do it, but I have to take stuff from them also.  It sounds as if your son, like mine feels he has to be the man of the house when dad isn't there. I had to sit with my son and let him know I am the mother, his job is to be a brother, a friend to his sisters.  It took awhile for him to finally realize what his actions were doing, but he did realize.

As a homeschool mom, what curriculum do you use? I use the Pace. My children love it actually. They have had Abecka, Bob Jones and others, but they really enjoy Pace. I do too, I don't have to have a lesson plan -- Yeah!!  Also, you might try to find sport activities for your son for home schoolers, or even the school district in which you live in.  

Sorry this is so long, I can get real windy on a subject as home schooling .  Don't be a stranger and stop by my page, or just shoot me a line.  Be warned though I can get chatty. Can you tell?  God bless.