I just don't fucking understand her. She is supposed to be my mother yet she tries to compete with me like she's my sister. WTF?!?!?! What a fucking asshole.Here I am planning my wedding and she acts like a bitch. Isn't she supposed to be happy for me? I'm her first daughter to get married and she acts like when i talk to her about it it's a burden to hear. How can one person be so selfish?!?! Damn she makes my blood boil!!!!!!!!!!! She has always been like this with me.She is the type of person who calls you and asks how you are doing just to cut you off and talk about themselfs then hang up when they are done.  Aren't mothers supposed to encourage their children and support them? Well where can i find one of those? All i want to do is have her help me and be happy for me and all she does is tells me "everything doesn't happen in one day" What are you stupid? No Shit!!! But i need to start some where and just because you wait until the last minute to do shit doesn't mean I do. I'm not asking for you to plan my whole wedding in one day, I'm just asking for you to give me some help and let me be excited and share that excitment with you. AAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGG....... This is such a big deal for me and she makes me feel like shit. Fucking Asshole........

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Aug. 4, 2008 at 4:37 AM


sorry to hear shes not excited for you...

BUT I AM!!!!


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Aug. 4, 2008 at 6:08 AM

Wow. My grandmother is like that to my mom. Very unsupportive, crappy attitude. But it made my mom into an awesome person. My mom is by far the most supportive, understanding person I've ever met. And you will be like that too. You'll always remember how crappy your mom has been to you, and you'll be way better and way different to your own kids. And eventhough I never had my "real" wedding, I'm really excited for you!! Weddings are awesome, and everyone deserves one. Tell your mom to piss off! LOL.

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Aug. 4, 2008 at 7:37 AM

I'm so sorry Ris!

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Aug. 4, 2008 at 9:15 AM

im sorry hunny. my mother is like that too when it comes to me and my sisters, kinda like we're takin the attention away from her, and she hates it that my dad gives any of us attention (well used to she left im finally!!) i say just ignore her and go on with your wedding planning!

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Aug. 4, 2008 at 10:54 AM

Sorry to hear that..you're probably better off to seek out a close friend or maybe your MIL for help. That's what I did. My MIL helped me pick my dress, do favors, get a photographer, flowers, lots of stuff (my mom is too disorganized to help plan anything so she just helped select the place and food.) Also, you may want to consider a wedding planner, I hear they are good emotional support too. They cost money upfront, but my understanding from others is that you save so much on the stuff they help you get that it's worth it. Plus, you get to do the fun part and they do the leg work- you'd get to enjoy the process more..at least that's what I'm told. You may want to check out some of the wedding planning guides online too. Good luck sweet girl.

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Aug. 4, 2008 at 4:39 PM

Ugh!  Sorry for you!  I'm SO excited for you and Keith - you guys are a good match - so I guess just focus on that and realize that one day she'll (hopefully) look back and realize that she handled things wrong. 

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Aug. 7, 2008 at 12:02 PM

wow, you are right. Our mothers do sound alike. I feel your frustration because I feel the same way!!! I am still in shock after reading this journal, its almost like we are talking about the same person

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Aug. 8, 2008 at 10:08 AM

Sounds like a classic cause of JEALOUSY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  UGH.............you are such a better mother than that and you and Alicia will have a ball planning her wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  You don't need ugly at this time in your life this is suppost to be one of the greatest times in your life planning your wedding....leave all ugly people out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Aug. 11, 2008 at 1:21 PM

Boy, I wish I'd read this sooner!  Have you met MY daughter???  I will prolly never have the joy of seeing her get married or have children.....

I don't have "stuff" to offer but I can give you attention and love.  You'll have to tell me if I'm a bitch - according to Lexie, I am.  Now I wish I had cancelled that therapy today and gone with you shopping!!

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Aug. 12, 2008 at 11:03 PM

I understand... My birth mom and I got into a HUGE fight the night before my big wedding with my ex.  It was so bad that instead of us not seeing each other we spent the night before the wedding in the same house just separate floors because I refused to be around her.  I even told her she could stay home and not attend the wedding.

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