To the non-spankers....

[nikkiJ86]

To all of you who don't spank,what method of discipline do you use and how well does it work.

[mamasita21]

Aug. 14, 2008 at 10:37 AM

With my son, I give him time-out.  It simply kills him to have to sit still for 3 minutes.  Spanking doesn't even phase him.  There is a book called 1-2-3 Magic.  It is awesome and very effective in positive discipline.  Hope that helps.  :-)

[forRobyn]

Aug. 14, 2008 at 10:38 AM

I am not against spanking, but spanking does not work on my 2 and a half year old.  The old time out in her room gets the best results.  The time she is in there is up to her; she stays in until she has calmed down.

[hippie_momma]

Sep. 28, 2008 at 11:11 PM

Check out Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior Without Whining, Tantrums and Tears,  or Adventures in Gentle Discipline (a La Leche League Internaitional publication). We use  time-in, which means he has to sit on our lap and talk about what he did wrong until he apologizes and understands why he made a bad choice. At 2 1/2, he really grasps the concept and does well with it.

[ProudMomOfZoey]

Dec. 3, 2008 at 4:24 PM

this would be a good post.

[pandermom]

Jan. 8, 2009 at 10:40 PM

Hummm..I would like to know this too

[drinkactmentor]

May. 26, 2009 at 11:06 AM

I clicked even though I do spank, I also incorporate time out, but sometimes I just have to do what works at the moment.  Another thing I do is take away something like TV, just turn it off.  I also "bribe" to get things done I want my daughter to do, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. 

[AnnaMac]

Jan. 17, 2010 at 9:37 PM

For the most part we don't have any bad behavior in our home. Starting when my son was very little I showed him I had respect for him by explaining why there are things he shouldn't do. When he does something positive I reward him for that. I point out the good things he does in life. If he does something bad than that behavior gets ignored and it quickly goes away. I have also tried hard to be an example to him of how I want him to be. If I want him to have good manners I make a point of it to show him my good manners. Everyday I share with him and make sure he knows that I am sharing and how nice it is. When he does get overwhelmed with life and throws a temper tantrum he has a "safe place" in his room. It has books and drawings. He knows that is where he goes when he needs to escape or when he is feeling mad.

I have a one yr old and an almost 5 yr old and they have never been spanked in their lives.