an update on my life.

[pregnantagain07]

i was with my childrens father for almost 13 years. we made four beautiful children but he decided to get into selling drugs and a great possibility of using them while i was pregnant with the fourth. so we ended our relationship.  i bounced from here to there trying to figure out how to start over. the good lord blessed me with an apartment. only a two bedroom but it was ours and i was on my way to what i thought was starting over. sad to say he came back to my town after staying with his sister. started living with the girl that ( i believe got him addicted to drugs anyway) he would come over need a ride a pack of smokes something to eat money etc. at this time i wanted my family back........ not the smartest want but i did for whatever the reasons.  it became hard......... he would never pay me back  never contributed to our childrens welfare but i had helped him.... can u say used.... yes i was used and a fool for falling for it. well one day i said no more.  i went out with a friend and had a few drinks. the dad was watching the kids for once so i could enjoy me. just one time.  so when i came home he decided while i was gone we would have sex (had not did it with eachother in months) well he assumes i had intercourse with a man while i was out and beat my butt in front of the kids.  i met someone and started dating after this happend. well my son got kicked out of school and when he came home called his dad and told him my friend was there. he ran to my house. came barging in and my friend left so no trouble would be started.  after he left yep i got it again. why is it ok for a man to move on ???? but a woman is to stay stuck on stupid forever. yep i played like i called it off with the new friend.  so i am leaving one night to go stay with the friend. who comes walking up the parking lot as im leaving. yep my childrens father. talking about what you about to do i was coming over so we could talk. can u just come in for a few mins so we can talk. i said no so he ripped my house keys out my hand and would not give them back.  i leave and return still no house keys. i call the police to get them back first time ever doin that. anyway i find out he stole my clothes my workclothes cut the sleeves off my winter coat. next time im out with my friend he buys me another winter coat. childrens father stops by sees the coat burns it in my house on the stove and leaves. kids terrified. now i know its drugs. i kept my friend updated and he helped me through the ordeal. i ended up getting a restraining order on him. he broke it two days later. wow boy my kids were suffering i was suffering him and his crack smokin girlfriend went as far as callin cps on me over my infant. well no i did not do anything to the baby all allogations were dropped once they viewed my kids. that is how sick they were. because i would not give money to him for weed and ciggs.  he stole mine n i drove to their house and confronted him yelled at him and called them crackheads. yep the very next day i had a cps card in my door when i had returned from a wic appt.  well he went to jail and was released two days later. my friend came and got me and my four children and moved us to detroit with him. i have gained full legal custody and they revoked his parenting time. he serving 93 days in jail for domestic violence breakin  the ppo. not much time but it's time. now he will hopefully see that im done with his games i cannot be used the kids are not going to be used anymore and my friend is a great guy loves the kids and we all are moving to a new home on the first. well just releasing some thoughts.  but im so happy with my decision to move and to move on with my life. i just pray that my son who it has affected the most will understand my decision better when he gets older. he is 9 loves my new friend but it is still not his DAD and he goes back and forth. if anyone reads this just pray for us to continue our path to happiness. dreams do come true

[daisyb]

Aug. 14, 2008 at 5:43 PM

     Wishing you and your family Lots of Luck!

[dali_mama48161]

Aug. 18, 2008 at 11:46 AM

Praying for you as well!

[2smartkids]

Sep. 27, 2008 at 9:47 PM praying for yo and kids,join a support group

[pinkcalla721]

Nov. 16, 2008 at 11:00 PM

I hope things are a lot better now. I know only too well exactly how it was for you with the crack and accusations, taking your keys, using you like unreal. I had the same done to me. Mine is in prison currently, for his last felony against me. I cant tell you how wonderful it feels to move on with them gone for a while. You take care and know there are lots of prayers being said for you and your family. Great big pat on the back for  getting his parental rights removed. Mine has none right now simply because I covered my butt. I know that he will try and claim them though at some point. His crack use scares the heck out of me, I dont want him having my dd even under supervised visitation!

[tigcheri]

Dec. 15, 2008 at 8:49 AM

Your story brought tears to my eyes. I will be praying for you and your kids every day. You sound like an amazing mother.

[Resatrotter]

Oct. 31, 2009 at 10:05 AM

god bless you and your family