Wondering... what is right/wrong

[DOJOkarateMom]

I mentioned in a previous post about my friend who came home to his wife and daughter gone. How I felt sad for him and what to do to help him. What I need to inform you that I do believe I didn't mention before is he is my ex-fiance. We haven't been together for seven years. We have had "rendezvous." It hasn't obviously happened lately.

We have talked since he told me about his wife leaving. They are getting a divorce. He has moved. They are shuffeling their daughter back and forth. It's really tough on him. While we were talking one night I mentioned that I had a wedding to go to in September. He knows my family and so he would know the bride. I told him about it. Jokingly I said he should come as my "arm candy" to the wedding. It has since then gotten to be more serious topic. He is putting in for leave for the wedding to fly back here and drive with me to the wedding. My family loves him. I'm not worried about that. I am worried about whether this is the right thing to do or not. He is going through a divorce. He's not divorced yet. Neither of us are planning to get back together in a relationship.

I'm conflicted... right or wrong?

[3lilperks]

Aug. 15, 2008 at 2:08 AM

When it comes to marriage and dating, I am a bit conservative.  I think you should wait to have any dealings with him until after he is divorced.  I know you SAY you aren't planning to get back together but you must be planning to do something or else you wouldn't need to ask this question!  Most relationships aren't planned anyway, they just happen so be careful.