I am so sad right now.

I am having to cut off my aunt and possibly even my mother from my life entirely. Not that they have been overly supportive and loving to begin with for the last 10 or so years. 

A brief history....... and more to follow..

Some years ago I made the choice to study religions outside of what is taught in todays Bible. I studied wicca, white witch craft, druidism -- and practiced Wicca for a while. I no longer study or practice them. Have not done so for a very long time. Over 5 years at the least. Since no longer practicing that I have returned to loving and having faith in my Lord -- the one everyone hears about in the Bible. I am not a bible thumper -- nor will I ever be probably. (I am NOT one of those that thinks showing up on your door step after work to tell you about my beliefs is a good idea -- and I ask those that do that to my door step to leave. And I am polite about it.)

I have a very special gal in my life -- she is not blood related to me but none the less I call her "sister". We have known each other for 22 years. She's been my family thru many trials as I have been hers.One of her many trials is that she's not been able to have children of her own -- which brings me to my next paragraph.

I have a son. He's now 7 years old. My sister is raising him. He's been living with her for just over a year. She and her husband are going to adopt him. This is something that was carefully considered, talked about, prayed about it, watched the child, my sister and her husband interact -- all for about 2 full years. He's thriving in her home. He loves her as "mom" and her husband as "dad". They are awesome loving parents and it shows in an adorable 7 yr old boy.  I am the "other mom" -- and seeing him thrive and be happy makes it all worth while.

Why did he end up wth her? Many reasons - 1. He's completely bonded to her. Was even before we made the move to have him live with her. She lived with me during my divorce from the 7yo's "father". It was an ugly divorce and understand that the "father" is a full blown alcoholic, thief, stalker, drug user and abuser and still is. 2. She's a wonderful momma. That's the best  part you need to know. I could have a thousand reasons -- but those two are most important.

Why the heart and stones?

My other sister knew about my choices -- the studies.. and that the child is being raised by my other sister. She'd been praying about and then sought help in understanding why I made the choice I did concerning the child. Instead of talking to me -- she emailed my step mom and my aunt.

My aunt took it upon herself to be very callous and cruel in judging me. She said things that were way out of line. She cast stones. She was very callous and cruel in judging the gal I call "sister" -- and made the comment, "If God wanted her to have children don't you think he would have healed her body?" And when she challenged me on my sister's beliefs my first response was, "I don't know when she stopped practicing wicca." Talk about the roof flying off then! To me? It didnt matter when she stopped because she's my sister and I love her and its NOT for me to judge. Though I do know she's got a home church and is no longer practicing wicca.

And the heart -- I had a long talk with my sister whom had talked to the aunt. She listened and took to heart what I told her. Which is ten times more than I have shared here. I asked her to talk to me about concerns for my family. I am not sure that my sister understood the consequences of her actions. She was seeking to understand and simply looked to the wrong person.

So, before you cast stones or make judgements be sure to try to talk to those whom you are not sure if their choices are good. Find out why they are doing what they are. This does not mean you have to join them or agree with them. Also this does not mean to allow them to abuse or hurt you by thier choices.

Remember to always love them.

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