Deadbeat dialers........

[LUVMIBEBE07]

I should have just declined the call.... and gotten a great drunk message rather than an aggrevating drunk call from my ex-husband [#1]. He was celebrating and decided to include his Family, yeah great for him, but it was almost eleven o'clock, the baby took a late nap so he was fighting bed time, school was cancelled due to the Tropical storm brewing in the gulf, so I have a house full of teen- age girls, trying move things around in case we take a hit from the storm and he wants to discuss visitation, and us reuniting, whatever!!! I don't get it, why can't the man just pay child support and be done [the the ex].  He complains about his child support, which is less than a Friday night tab at the local pub, yet buys expensive gifts[ laptops, iPods, designer clothes, concert tickets, etc.] but doesn'tthink for a minute about the daily expenses. He makes a big deal about dedicating a show to me and the kids, woo-hoo, that doesn't pay a bill. This may sound harsh, but the history of this relationship is that he was out of the picture for almost ten years,his choice,  zero contact with his daughter. Sheis a really strong girl[15], and now just tells him to blow-off, but hasn't always been like that, she spent may days [Father's Day, his b-day, Xmas] crying due to her dad's absence.  I just can't believe how people think they can do something so friggin' crappy to another, especially their wife and kids then justsay "Hey- Lets go to Disney" that's a bunch of horse crap! They want to just erase the past, and forget it all happened. I wish I could, I tried but he just keeps doing another thing as stupid as the last. When will it end? [retorical] I just pisses me off that I have two ex's that are smart, successful, well off individuals and such dead-beats at the same time. Ex #2, refuses to help me financially, but is raising his ex wife's 2 kids from her first marriage, and their [only] son. I am struggling, but not struggling to feed my kids, just not able to do he thing I want. It took me a long time to recuperate after the first divorce, now I am worse off then ever; my standard off living has decreased dramatically. while the ex's are justchillin' and enjoying life. It is my turn to enjoy life!! They think the occasional phone call is Fathering, I am just so sick of it. Sorry but needed to vent, thank you guys for being out there. I <3 my cafemom mommas!

[Neze]

Aug. 19, 2008 at 2:32 PM

I am really sorry that you are going through this right now. You're right all that you have done for your family it is your turn and don't worry you will enjoy every moment of it. It might not seem like it at this moment. But I know that everything will work it self out.

Neserin