Vent about family

[Aubreysmommy24]

My DD 1st birthday is this Sunday, we are having her party on Saturday. I'm having a hard time getting excited for her birthday b/c of the lack of response that I'm getting from my family that were invited to the party.

The only people I know who are comming is my parents and my two brothers and a family of 4 who are friends of ours. Now my family has never been good at RSVP'ing and some of them are infamous for NOT letting you know whether or not they'll be coming. I understand that 3 hrs is a long drive for some people and I understand that sometimes people can't make the road trip but for g** sakes this is her 1st birthday. It just feels like family is not important to anyone but me sometimes and that her birthday is not important to anyone else.

I am able to understand the circumstances of some of the family but others I'm having a really hard time not being angry with... Granted all of our family is out of town but my hubby and I manage to make it to there house for special occassions.

My sister in law (her godmother) is a night nurse, she can't make it b/c she has to work... She has a tendency to miss a lot of the things that I invite her to. Thankfully this time she is allowing my brother to come.

Her grandma (hubby's mom) just sent an email saying that she coudn't make it because of (get this) high gas prices, no dog sitter and an unreliable car!

My father in law has not responded, he never does... Two of my own aunts and uncles have not responded - they rarely do (they are 5 hrs away)

My sister in law (hubbys sister) was just down for the 4th of july and she is a $250 plane flight away.

My brother in law and his wife (hubby's brother) just had a baby 2 weeks ago and it would be a 3 hr drive for them. They are about the only excuse that I'm ok with...

I'd like to think that I'm just overreacting but this happens so frequently with these family members and I'm getting pretty sick of it. I wish I could just not care but family is important to me and I just wish that we had the type of family that got together for special occassions or at least RSVP'd...

Thanks for listening

[sunflowerfreak]

Aug. 20, 2008 at 12:26 PM

You're welcome.  But let me just tell you, don't stress over it.  I've had many b-day parties for my son and I tell everyone in my family.  May family is like yours.  They don't exactly RSVP, they just show up.  I've found that I don't worry about who MIGHT be coming, I concentrate on the people who are there and that's important enough for me.  I enjoy the people that are there b/c I don't see those people as often either and I'm able to talk with them, enjoy their company as well.  Relax and enjoy!!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR DAUGHTER!!!!!

[charlesmom0807]

Aug. 20, 2008 at 1:59 PM

I'm sorry your guys families are being that way. We will be there but I completely understand what you're feeling. Charlie's Aunt and Uncle hadn't even met him before his first birthday and they live within 20 minutes so I understand. I hope they all pull together though or they are going to miss out on a lot of important things in Aubrey's life. Their loss.

[LizJones1229]

Aug. 21, 2008 at 4:53 PM

Girl, I completely understand about families not RSVPing. i sent out invitations and give my number for them to rsvp so i never know whos going to come. I have a few family members who never come to any functions i threw here at our home. Especially the important ones like birthday parties and graduations. I even held brooklyns birthday party when i had just had Ryleigh the day before and they couldnt even bother to come to that. It makes me mad but what can you do. You just have to make her day the most special day since is to the ripe old age of one! lol

[naturalspalady]

Aug. 21, 2008 at 11:23 PM

I'm sorry they're being that way!   I'm sure you will instill a much great sense of family and togetherness with Aubrey.  We unfortunately can't change our family members no matter how much we might like too.  Hugs and I pray that Aubrey has a wonderful 1st birthday... they're the ones who are truely missing out!