Well, it's been 2 days now and Josiah's father hasn't brought any diapers or came by to see him. I did talk to him yesterday and he gives me this dumb a$$ excuse: We don't live in that area anymore ( he used to stay on the next block over from me) so he doesn't have any gas money to try to make it over here. Where does he live? I have no clue at all. But I hope that if he does ask if he can take Josiah I'm not letting him since I don't know where he stays now. If I can't see where he is located then I'm not taking no chances of him taking my son and probably not bringing him back. I would like for him to take his son so they can bond together and so I can get some rest. I texted him telling him that he would be nice to discuss some arrangements for you to come get him once in a while so I can rest since I haven't had any sleep since we been home. But last night my brother's girlfriend was nice enough to take him for a while so I can rest and boy I felt so much better. He came home 2am. I thanked her and told her she doesn't know how much I appreciated it. So anyway, back to this a$$hole. He never did contact me to discuss anything. So you know what, I just said, f*ck it, he should have the idea, yeah it may be his first child, but common sense you know what you gotta do, right. So I'm going to stop contacted him, if he wants to see his child, he know where to find me, if not then that's his lost not mine. It may be sad for my son when he gets older and I have to be the one to tell him about his father (not negatively). If he wants to take his son and spend time with him, that's fine with me, but like I said, if I can't see his house or allowed to go in his house to check it out, then my child isn't going anywhere with him.
In the situation you are in I feel for you. When he starts coming around to wanting to spend time with him, then watch out for a motive behind it.
Don't waste your time with this man. I agree with the first poster, take it to court. The best way for you to insure your child have a father is by the court setting up visitation....and child support! You ain't no gold diggin baby momma. You are a mother trying to raise and provide for your children.
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Girl, get a support order. They will make him pay and have it set up for visitation. Go through the courts. Don't trust him to do what he is supposed to do, make him do it.
soon2bemomof307 Aug. 24, 2008 at 11:57 PM