Should he know?

[julie1218]

Okay ,here goes... My son will soon be 9 in a couple of weeks.He has not seen his father since he was 2.His father was a lot older than me when we got together,needless to say I did not have the fairytale ending I was looking for. He left when I was 5 months pregnant. Anyway, I knew about 2 of his kids from different relationships,come to find out he has several more kids that I did not know about.Should I tell my son that he has brothers and sisters out there somewhere?

[Mynesha]

Aug. 26, 2008 at 12:05 AM

That's kind of a hard one because I remember being just a few years older finding out I had another sibling (hell father for that matter). I think it was way too much to deal with at that age, but even more than that, it was hard having that information and not being able to do anything about it; always wondering what my sister was like and knowing she was out there but I couldn't see her or be around her.  I suppose I would say maybe wait till he gets older if there's no way he can be introduced to the new siblings or at least begin doing search for them.

[grandma_mary]

May. 28, 2009 at 11:01 AM

Old post I know but I have to give my 2 cents anyways. I just went thru this with the 2 grandkids we're raising. After 10 1/2 yrs their father has decided he wants to be a part of their lives. Grrrr anyways we decided they have a right to know him, in Dec they met him found out there are 5 brothers and sisters who their father says they can not meet (that was the last time they have heard from him) they were fine meeting him but could care less that hes not around..the 11 yr old says he would like to meet his brothers and sisters someday but at this point does not care. So yes it turned out better then we thought it would and are happy with the decision to tell them about their other family (they had never asked about him before this) kids are alot smater then we give them credit for sometimes and can handle stuff thrown their way. Yes he should be told.