Same old story

[Valerie4882]

Well nothing with the husband has changed at all.  I am what 30 weeks pregnant with the second child and he has not asked ONCE during this pregnancy how everything is going.  He hasn't even suggested a name for the baby.  Well I will come up with one on my own.  He doesn't want to be involved...that is fine.  I feel more at ease when he is away.  And I have dicussed with him before as to why he doesnt call to check in.  He does maybe once a week, but if you are away all week wouldn't you call everyday?  But then again that is just me and my opinion.  Also, our son's first birthday just passed.  He never even asked about the party until the last few days and that was just for his guestlist.  (We had the party on the air force base, so we all had to turn in a guestlist).  And he didn't even get that in on time.  So he had to wait at the gate to sponsor in his guests.  Haha that'll teach him.  But I did try to turn it in LATE.  Of course they wouldn't take it.  A deadline is a deadline.  They are there for a reason.  But during the party there was an open bar, paid for by my mother.  He ran the tab up to $247 just on patron shots!  The total bill plus a $50 tip was $500.  So he has over half the bill on patron.  I can understand being hospitable but this is not someone's 21st b-day right???  The drinks were there just to relax and get loosened up for some embaressing yet funny games hehe.  But he never even said thank you to my mom.  He should know shots are expensive.  And get this, after the party he went to his brother's house for an afterparty to drink some more.  Thank God I had friends there that helped me home.  I had the baby, and leftover food, and presents, and ballons to get in the house.  He didn't even offer.  He said just leave the stuff in the car and and I'll get it out when I get home.  *sigh*  I want to get mad at him but I am so done with this BS.   I shouldn't have to tell him to help me.  He should do that automatically right?  I am 7 months pregnant.  But I am so used to doing things on my own.  The only thing that I need help on is supporting this family.  Since I'm not working right now.  When he comes home it's just like someone that visits once a week.  He barley interacts with his own son.  He plays for a little while or just stares at him while he plays.  INTERACTION is how babies learn.  My friends seems to take more interest in my son than he does.  Hell, they help me out more.  But that's my little rant for now.  Had to get that off my chest.

[laezpnai]

Aug. 30, 2008 at 2:07 PM

 :( xox..  well, im glad that youve got some help from some ppl, at least. i wish i was closer <3. all things considered, youre a strong mama and i think youre doing great :). you just do what you gotta do and you'll make it,