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the navy???
- Aug 29, 2008 at 11:56 AM
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Well DH has decided he wants to go into the navy!! He wants to enlist in a week! I dont think he will go to boot camp for lil while. i dunno whats going on cuz he doesnt wanna miss ky bday on halloween or christmas. I told him tho that he should get used to it if he is going into Navy cuz he will miss alot. I support him but i am scared!! It isnt the life i wanted and never imagined a military wife! but we are struggling really bad wiht money... like to where we have to borrow money and decide which bills we are gunna say screw it too. we so badly want to have another baby but cant afford it!! Plus lot of drama with his BIL that he wants to get away from. He feels that this is only way out of here cuz we wanna move out of state to wa but cant afford the move. and with the military we can move, plus have good health benfits and if we live on base not have to pay for our house utilites and stuff so it will give us money to get caught up on other things. i think it could be good for us but i hate the idea of being married and him being gone so much. i didnt get married to be alone... but i know its what we need. i dunno what to think or feel. i am just scared. advice anyone?? ugh just needed to get that out
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Well, if he can get to a certain point in the military, your kids will be set up for college as well. And he is trying to make things easier for you guys. I know it's hard, but for a few years, it seems worth it...
The military life isn't bad. There's great benefits and health care, and yes he'll be gone with deployments and training but that's part of the military life. It takes a strong woman to be a military wife. My advice is to just stay strong and keep your head up and you'll be fine. If he deploys you can't mope around you have to make the best out of it and keep yourself busy and the deployment will go by pretty fast. :) Good luck to you guys!!!
Our good friends were in the same situation. Lacy had just had a baby and money was really tight (they had a lot of debt). Neither had a college degree so Bob joined the army. He got a sign on bonus which they used to pay off all their credit cards & car. He joined for 4 years and when he got out the military paid for him to go back to school. Now he is a teacher and they are doing so well; they just had their 2nd baby and bought a beautiful home. It was a hard 4 year sacrifice for Lacy because Bob was deployed to Iraq but she said the army wives stick together and become your family (they lived on base). So their are so many pros and cons. The pros are the financial aspect - the cons are the time spent apart. But if he's not a lifer it's only temporary. Good luck to you and keep us posted as to what the outcome is.
Hey, I was just on the scavenger hunt for states and saw that you're in Thornton and your hubby is joining the Navy? My hubby is in the navy and we're stationed at Buckley Air Force Base in Aurora. I've been lucky that my husband hasn't been deployed *yet*. Being a Navy wife takes some getting used to, but it's not all bad and, like you said, the benefits are good. But, honestly, with a family of only 3, it's cheaper to live off base. The military pays you an allowance for housing. It's the same whether you have 1 kid or 12 kids. If you only need a two bedroom place, you'll be able to put away some of that allowance vs. living on base, they take most of it as rent. (when we lived off base in a two bedroom our rent was $900 a month. Now we live on base and our rent is quite a bit more and does not include any utilities besides water.) Anyway, I'm rambling, but I hope it all works out for you guys!
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Now he is talking about getting out and I am honestly scared to go and leave everything I have known.
Yes, he will have to get use to missing important days. It happens all the time.
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