My advice is to always talk about things, when I fight with my husband I don't beat around the bush If we are fighting about sex, I fight about sex, same with money, and etc. If you have the confidence that you can trust your spouse to ultimately understand there is no reason to hide behind a fake argument. Always talk communication is the best thing you can have

Weezy2698 Aug. 29, 2008 at 11:25 PM

Yes the best advice is communication,as long as you know that his the type of man, that you know will listen,than you're be fine.I'm married to my husband for 28yrs. it's very hard when all of a sudden you feel like you want to do new things,but you'll not sure if it's our hormones or what.When I met my husband,I lived alone and so di he.I had alot of friends,very out going,had a good job,very independent.I was 25yrs.he was 23yrs.I like to party(dance)Iloved it,I don't know if you ever saw that movie with John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever?well the club in that movie 2001 Odeseey I lived near and I used to go there with my friends every Friday night,it was a bast.I love dancing.But my husband doesn't dance,he had friends but was more of the type that like to stay home,go to parties that all they did was drink,dance but he didn't dance.So right there we were diferent.I wanted to enjoy myself before I decided to get married and have kids.My family told me Maria remember his diffente than you.You are very active,dependent,you like to party and go out with friends etc.And I knew what I wanted to do because I had been married one time when i was 19yrs.old and it was an abusive marriage,got away before almost being killed and the marrage anual,thank God.I was living with relatives until I got to live with a roomate,a girl with 2 kids,after a yr.moved on my own.I said I didn't want to get involved with noone until I enjoy myself first.And so I did.I got married,had my daughter,I was 28yrs.but I always love music,dancing and after many years I didn't do it only on birthday partys if any.Now I'm old I still love music and dancing and I really missed that.But I don't regret my choice as to doing things befre I committed to a man and have kids.My advice is ,if you'll still young and want to experiment and try something new do it while you can cause if you don't believe me you'll regret it in later yrs.So talk with your husband tell him what you want to do,see what he saids.My husband knew how I was when he met me and I told him I love to go out and party(dance)do different things,like the movie "Tombstone"Kurt Russell is married and he meets this other woman who his attracted to him,and this other woman tells him that she likes to travel experience other places just go and have serve all the time,well he goes and tells his wife ,honey lets just move,travel,explore and his wife whose always drugged tells him What are you talking about,explore for what.Well there it is he lives her and goes with the other who wants to explore.It's normal waht you're feeling,you know your husband since very young and now you're in the best years in life 20's so good luck.I'm glad I did what I did because I know I would have regret it not exploring before I committed myself to being a wife and mother.So good luck to you and may God Bless you and your family.

Selena510 Aug. 30, 2008 at 12:15 AM

I'm 26 and I was wild in high school but I met my hubby at 18 and I settled down a little and then I got pregnant at 21 I now have 3 great kids and wish I had lived life a little more also. My man works off shore in the Persian gulf on an oil rig so not only am I faced with this desire to cut loose now and then but I also get lonely. I damn sure don't have the answers but I know if my man work around home more I would be able to set an "us" weekend like once a month or once every 6 weeks so that we could leave the kids at my moms or some where and go out together and see new places and things and date again instead of the same old grind every day. I do know that if you don't find a way to include him in your new feelings it will drive a wedge between the two of you. I wish you all the luck in the world and when I crash tonight I'll say aquick prayer for you and your family. May we both find a way to hold things together! :-)

momx32 Aug. 30, 2008 at 12:27 AM

Thanx soooo Much ladies I totally love all your advise and well wishes!! I will take each and every bit of it and use it with all my heart! Thank You Again :)

luvy_dovy_mommy Sep. 2, 2008 at 10:50 PM