Can't they make a gum for this or something?

[Dianne1259]

My husband is addicted to porn, I mean full on addicted, can't quite despite his attempts, this is the drug of his choice addicted.

And it sucks!

Yes, I've been to family of addicts groups, and I get in my head that it has nothing to do with me, but it doesn't quite sink into my heart very well. I still feel ugly, unloved, unappreciated, and sexually turned off. I still feel like screaming and punching the wall.

Yeah, I've got crazy parental controls on our computer, with a mac you can do "only these websites are allowed" type of thing. I don't like being a parent to him, I'm his wife, not his mother, but aside from that it's still difficult when otherwise innocent websites end up having forums and slimy people have sick-and-wrong avatars.

I don't know what to do anymore. I know I can't control the addiction, I know he can't control the addiction, but I just about lost my mind when I realized he wasn't doing those good things he can control - the addict groups call them "dailies" like reading scriptures and saying prayers, talking to someone for support.

I've asked him just to keep it out of our home, we have a baby daughter that at least needs to grow up seeing an example of a man who respects women; he hasn't managed that yet, and while she has just barely turned one, it can't be that much longer before she gets that something is up.

This is mostly a vent, but if you are going to comment please don't say "porn is harmless" or "it's no big deal," a drink of liquor may be no big deal, but a full on alcoholic is a big deal.

[Dianne1259]

Aug. 30, 2008 at 9:51 PM

I lived with a porn addict for 6 years.  We just got our divorce papers.  It's demeaning, disrespectful on his part, selfish,  inconsiderate, well, the list goes on.  Mine almost got arrested b/c someone sent him a pic and he opened it, realized what it was and immediately deleted it.  But the worst was when I found out what his group interests were on Yahoo SICKSICKSICK!!  Ah yeah, and when the DA came and took MY computer, he told me the jerk off was trying to SELL  ME on the internet as a Dominatrix Mistress (whatever that is!!).  I wish you the best and pray he will decide that his family is more important than his addiction, I gave mine that ultimatum and he walked!

Aug. 30, 2008 at 9:59 PM

Thanks for sharing, I guess I can be very grateful he hasn't taken it to that extreme level yet.

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