advice please!!!!

[waitin4number2]

i don't know if anyone will read this or will even care if they do but i have to get this out...my dad .  i think that he is getting alzheimers or something.  I can't let him leave the house by himself or he is walking around town bothering people and begging!  i just don't know what to do.  no i'm not working but i have a ten month old and one on the way.  My husband can't find work because of his criminal record so whatever money he does make doing odd jobs and such is going for bills and feeding us. dad may think he is helping but he isnt.  every time we turn around someone is calling us or coming to the house saying that we need to go get him.  i am at the end of my rope here.  he is telling people that he hasn't eaten in days when he knows that we have food for him to eat.  he refuses to eat what we have because he doesn't like it. (!!)  we all live together and my husband is killing himself trying to keep the house from being forclosed on all the utilities paid our bills paid and food and diapers in the house.  the last thing i can afford to do or even want to do is put him in a home.  but he won't listen to us.  the police have even said that they are going to arrest him if he doesn't stop.  and to make matters worse most people think that we are the bad guys!!  i really feel like just giving up and dying.  if it wasn't for my babies i probably would have by now.  it's not because we get the house.  if we had another place i would say screw the house and let dad come live with us.  but as it is we have so much tied up in this house even before we lived here that we can't afford to go anywhere else.  the house payment is down to $290 a month.  we aren't going to find a place for 3 adults and 2 babies for that much even if they would rent to us with his record.  we moved in to conserve money and still help dad keep the house he has worked so hard for. 

i can't take much more. . .   

[scarrymama]

Aug. 30, 2008 at 11:06 PM

Don't give up girl. I know that it is harder to hang on than to give in...but I know that you have the strength to keep up the fight. Go online and google different options. My hubby is the google master and finds out tons of stuff from it. I would google options for care facilities that are low income or state provided. Does your dad collect social security or is he a vet? I am so sorry that you are going through this...my grandmother had Alzheimers and I am afraid that my dad also is in the early stages of it. Hold on girl...if you ever need to chat, feel free to pm me.