People and thier 2 cents........

[RagJunkie]

For me I have not felt complete in my home and my heart.  I have shared with some people that I want to have another baby and well people sure like to add their to cents in to my life not even looking into their own lives....Im   tired of it personally.....I have learned that I cant tell people nothing that makes me happy at all!!!   Ive been told 3 is enough, my house is to small, we dont have enough money, who will watch the baby and so on!!!!!   It's like wow for friends and family you are sure treating me like I just said I want to have a pony live in my home or something...lookin at me like I have 2 heads.....WOW  I just cryed and cryed Sunday at church because once again a friend just shot me down in a moment of happiness!!!!  For all I know I might not ever have my 4th child I might not ever see Craig or Eve but you know what let me dream let me be happy for that moment be there for me and not crush my dreams.....other people might not want more then 2 kids or even 1 but come on.....I also cant stand the saying the more kids you have the less thing you will get.......SO  I love my kids and if that means I have to sacrifice then so be it but dont throw all these pros and cons at me!!!!   I just wish people would be there for me as I am for them!!!  No one will truly know how hurting I was Sunday just crying to God saying why cant people just be loving and happy this might not ever happen but just be there for me!!!! God already knows if we will have a 4th someday but I dont!!!!   Im crying now thinking I might not ever see Craig or Eve but dont hurt me any more then I am knowing that it might never happen!!! 

[iltemprd]

Sep. 1, 2008 at 11:27 PM

Hang in there.  We have also just decided that we would like to have a 3rd.  The thing is,  I have to have my tubal ligation reversed.  We are not sure that it is possible just yet.  Hopefully, we will know within 2 weeks.  I was afraid to mention it to my family for some of the same things you got from people.  It all really boils down to the fact that we run our own lives.  If we do it well and raise awesome kids, it is a life well lived.  Good luck to you.

[RagJunkie]

Sep. 1, 2008 at 11:53 PM

Thanks that means so much for real.......

(Original Poster)

[ZakZaksmom]

Sep. 2, 2008 at 12:25 AM You do what feels right for your family and forget everyone else says. Like you said God is the only one who knows what you will be blessed with. Next time someone can't enjoy your happiness with you just tell them "I didn't ask you to send them to college or give birth to them but thanks for your concern". I hope you are blessed with as God sees fit. Good luck and let us know when it happens.

[BigMammaLou]

Sep. 2, 2008 at 12:37 AM

I have found that it is best not to tell people what you want.Because you have those who act like they are happy for you and they are praying against you the whole time. If you want another child you and your husband pray and ask God to give the child to you. If it is in his will you will get what you ask for. People are jealous and they are mean not all of them but some of them are. I sincerely hope that you will be blessed with the child that you long for. It should not matter to others because it will be your responsibility not theirs. God knows how much you can bear and you know.......just when you least expect it you will be blessed with another child. Wait and see. Keep the faith.

[BigMammaLou]

Sep. 2, 2008 at 12:38 AM

I also wanted to add you have a beautiful family. Your children are just gorgeous!!

[AlanaSM]

Sep. 2, 2008 at 7:39 PM

Well girlie! Let me tell you this...I know that you and I have just started talking and we still don't know much about each other, but with your situation, I am definitely on your side and I am here to support you. You know what? Don't listen to those people and all the negative things they say about you 2 having another child. It's not their decision and really, honestly.. it's not even yours and Steve's. It's God's decision Emma. You need to continue to pray and ask God what he says about you 2 having another child to add to your wonderful family. I can't even imagine Him saying no to you since you will raise this baby in a Godly home and teach Craig or Eve to follow God. A child is a gift from God. And if you are right and one with Him then He will give you what He thinks you should have. And then again girl, like you said, you don't know what God has in store for you. You might wake up one morning from God telling you to adopt or help another family with a child in need. Don't listen to people. And I know this is tuff to do especially when it's close friends and even family, but Emma, follow and trust God. He will provide. If you do have Craig or Eve He will get you and Steve through it. As long as you stay strong in Him and raise your children to follow and live for Him. There is never a limit on how many children you can or can not have. You do what's best for your family and what God says!!! Stay strong, momma. Ignore all the stupid comments from "people". God is the one you need to listen and care about!!! Luv yaz♥♥

         Craig                      Eve

[PRINCESSPOOHJJ1]

Oct. 3, 2008 at 8:50 PM

You do what you feel you need to do with your life.I have learned with my own situation(Check out my page)People need to mind there own business. If you feel that another child will make you whole than go for it.Children are miracles especially mine. I have always said the smaller the house the more love that is there.