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Why is it acceptable to bash ONE but not the OTHER? SERIOUS Question here!
- Sep 2, 2008 at 10:39 PM
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Hi ladies,
Ok - I'm just going to get this out there because it bugs the hell out of me.
I've had 3 kids (2001, 2002 and 2005) and was 94 when I got pg with the first, 96 when I got pg with the 2nd and 99 when I got pg with the 3rd. My youngest is now 3 and I am a whopping 102lbs at ALMOST 5'3"- I can weigh a girl's size 12/14 in tops and a girl's sie 16 or a 00/1 in junior's. I weigh LESS NOW than I did in my senior year of high school 12 YEARS AGO (I am now 30). I was 110 then.
THIS IS NOT ONLY RELATED TO THIS BOARD BUT REAL LIFE AS WELL! IF ANYONE STARTS BASHING EITHER ONE OR THE OTHER I WILL DELETE THIS POST!!!!!! THIS IS A POST ABOUT SOCIETY'S VIEWS IN GENERAL AND YOUR PERSONAL VIEWS IN PARTICULAR it is NOT a place to bash ANYBODY size!!
Why is it rude to bash or complain about plus-size people but not rude to talk about skinny people? I'm thin and I've been called (to my face and behind my back both) a "skinny bitch", anorexic, bulimic, told I need to eat, had food forced on me, had complete strangers follow me to the bathroom after a meal because they are SOOO sure I'm going to throw up a meal etc. etc. etc.
Now - let's play devil's advocate for a minute - what would happen if I walked up to a plus-size person and called them a "fat pig", told them they need to diet, grabbed food away from them, or etc. etc. etc.
Which situation do you HONESTLY think would be considered more rude in our society? If you said the 2nd one you'd be correct. For some reason bringing up a plus-size person's weight is taboo and seen as reprehensible - but bring up a skinny person's weight to a thin person and everyone laughs and joins in on the fun or etc.
Why is talking about ANYONE'S weight - skinny or not - ok? I find it JUST as rude to accost someone for being skinny as it would be to accost someone for being plus-size. In addition - few people know this - but there are almost as many health problems with being skinny as there are with being overweight. Also, MOST thin people DO NOT have an eating disorder - although that is a myth that is perpetrated by our media. Anexoria and bulemia are, actually, pretty rare and MOST thin people either have a very good metabolism or work hard at keeping themselves healthy (NOT an eating disorder by the way - just HEALTHY) - why is that seen as wrong? Has our society literally made it ok to accost skinny people just because a lot of people are jealous of them? If so, because I'm jealous of heavier people, does that mean it's ok for ME to accost a plus-size person out of jealousy as well? I think not!
I think we, as parents (ESPECIALLY if we have daughters), should start teaching our children tolerence of weight just as we do of race. We teach our children not to see color so why don't we teach them not to see weight as well? Do you KNOW how much teasing this would cut down in our schools ALONE????? Not to mention the world in general!
My mother suffered with anorexia, I am thin by nature and have never had an eating disorder. Many of my friends are plus-size but I don't see that - I see my friend who I LOVE and CHERISH whether she is a size 2 or a size 22. Isn't that something we should ALL work to attain? If we try not to see the world in colors let's also try to not see the world in sizes.
The End.
Comments:
Unless you are under 5ft, it is extremely unhealthy to weigh less than 100lbs... and I would agree with anyone calling someone that weighed that much "anorexic", because there's obviously an issue there.
Sadie,
No there's not an "issue there". I'm EXTREMELY small-boned and have an EXTREMELY fast metabolism. I eat 3,000+ calories a day and just cannot keep weight on. I have had every medical test known to man and there is NOTHING wrong with me - I am 100% healthy - just tiny!
In addition - I've been called anexoric when I weighed 105 AND when I only weighed 95 so it's NOT just being "underweight" that starts the name-calling.
Lastly, if you've not been in a place where you struggle to keep weight ON and do NOT have an eating disorder you cannot understand that it is just as painful and hard as it is for an overweight person to LOSE weight. In addition it is EXTREMELY hurtful for ANYONE to call me names or make fun of me just because I happen to be thin!
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The media tells us...it's a good thing to be thin...and you can never be TOO thin...so I think people don't think their being offensive when they comment on a thin person's weight. According to the media, It's not fashionable to be overweight or even admirable. Anytime any well known person puts on a mere 10 lbs, you can guarantee someone will be out to get a photo and plaster them all over tabloids exploited their "weight problem" . Most people who struggle with weight issues (being overweight) rarely see that a thin person may have difficulties gaining weight. It doesn't make it right or fair...but I doubt that it will ever go away, some people will always feel justified in commenting on one's weight....heavy or thin.
- Carmen804
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