Please let something give!!!! I need a break!

[Lovemybrayden]

I really love being a stay at home mom. I really do. I just can't take all the trouble we are having with money right now. The bad part is that I can't get a job because we can't afford daycare. Isn't that crazy!!! Either way I go I won't have any money. I know money isn't happiness but it sure the hell helps. I am  just so stressed out about everything right now. It just seems like nothing goes wrong until we don't have the money to deal with it. First off my son's birthday is coming up then next month my daughter's birthday and everybody is having wedding showers and baby showers and bachelorette parties....I have to host a baby shower soon and in the heat of all this my shower, toilet and washer are backing up in my basement so there is poop in my basement right now. That is going to cost like 700 dollars that I don't have....Oh yeah my son is going through is terrible twos right now and won't take naps. Soooo I am going crazy because I don't get anytime to just take a breath and be with myself to regroup. My husband is never home only on the weekends. Which I don't really feel that is fair, but also not his fault. We can't afford for him to come home through the week.  He works two hours away. I just don't know how much longer I can deal with all of this on my own. I know my husband has to worry about money too but he doesn't have to worry about dealing with the plumber dealing with a two year old and a 1 year old, plan two different birthday parties and a baby shower with no money I might add. When I say no money I mean no money we are negative. I just don't know what to do anymore I need his help and I have asked several times and don't get any response but I don't know. All of this is really taking a toll on our marriage and he just puts it aside like it doesn't matter.  I feel like when I talk to my friends all I am doing is bitching about how bad my life sucks or something. So I just keep it all to myself and don't really talk to anybody because I feel like I am just griping about everything.  I know there are families out there that have it worse than me but this is my life and I am living it not the other families out there. I just wish something would give!!!!!  Oh yeah I forgot about how we are filing for bankruptcy and we gave the lawyer a check to pay him and then we had to ask him not to cash it until fri. and I looked at the bank account today and he did anyway and that really pissed me off because it put us in the negative.  What an ass.  Oh yeah I also forgot that our van is in need of service!!!!! It sounds horrible.  I am sure there is more I just don't want to mess with putting it all down in writing!!! Anyway I just really want to just crawl up in a little ball and wait until someone comes and saves me!! ummmm yeah right!!!!!

[summers1332]

Sep. 10, 2008 at 2:46 PM

IT SUCKS!!  I know!  Is there anyway that you quailify for free daycare.  You may look into that.  Cause it certainly wouldn't be worth you working and paying no less than 150 weekly for day care.  You're right.  And for some reason people don't get that. 

I know exactly how you feel.  Bo has a GREAT job and makes good money, yet there is never enough.  I swear that I am a month behind on every bill.  I am working TWO part time jobs (thank God for my gramma watching Cordelia) and it's still not enough.  Also we are spenders, but I swear we haven't spent on anything other than necessities and the occassional dinner out.   We spent some money on each other in the last few weeks for our birthdays (less than $100 each) and our anniversary is next week.  His mom got us a room at French Lick and now I wonder if even with a free room can we go??!!

It just sucks, it's like the more money we are making the less we have.  It sucks more for you with Brian gone, but still I don't think Bo stresses out as much as me.  Mostly because he doesn't deal with the day to day of it.   Then our course this weekend the window on my car broke, so it's in the shop (again thank God it's my step dad and he said that I could pay him when I get the money--but still the part cost 160.00 WTF).  I totally understand and if you need to bitch give me a call--- I PM you my number a while back.  

Remember that it will pass and that the love you share with you family is more important.  Take a breath.  Enjoy your beautiful babies.  Remember (again) this too shall pass.

[sjlk1966]

Sep. 10, 2008 at 5:15 PM

I'm so sorry....I don't blame you for needing to vent.  Do you have any friends or relatives near who can take your kids, even for an hour?  And about the parties--your kids are too little to care how much you spend on them.  I'll be thinking about you, and I sure hope things work out!

[SWells041585]

Sep. 16, 2008 at 12:18 PM

Aww momma!  That's terrible!  SS momma, I'm learning (b/c it's a constant struggle) that I have to walk in faith and know that 'this too shall pass'.  Have you ever thought about working from home??  Not one of those sell a bunch of stuff, scam kind of jobs, but a real legitimate work from home opportunity.  I'm an Expeditor for ChaCha.com (<b/c I obviously wasn't smart enough to be a guide lol) and I tell everyone you only make $4-$7 an hour, but every cent helps!! 

[Lovemybrayden]

Sep. 23, 2008 at 12:59 AM

Thanks for everybodies comments.....things haven't really gotten any better but I guess I have just loosened up and I fugure while the hell make things worse by criping about it!!!LOL

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[aussiegirl3]

Sep. 23, 2008 at 1:11 AM

Could you get a job in a daycare?  Usually you get a break on the cost and you could be around other women and have help with the kids.  I did it for a while, and even a little money is better than no money!  Its so hard to think when you are swimming in pressure and stress!  Can't believe that attorney did that to you!  Bandit!  Chin up!  Hang in there!