I need to do this for the kids atleast

[wolowski511]

I have a long post cause I have to get this off my chest it is seriously eatting me up inside... Anyway I met my husband 5 yrs ago he was a good man then he had a job my kids loved him well they still do but anyway I got married to him because he really was the 1  he was awesome until I got a ring on my finger as soon as that happened everything changed he stopped working ,sex well that is non exsistant and myself I am so unhappy  I got married because I wanted a dad for my kids and I was so tired of dating and my kids seeing different men in their lives so I settled down not saying i am perfect because I did cheat on him 1 time but I did warn him before I did it I was a very sexual person and I wasn't getting it from him so I went else where he knew about it but I wish it would have ended then but it didn't I do love him but I can't be with him I stopped working because I have an income if I don't work so I can pay the bills anyway I only stopped to see how long he would stay not working cause you think a man would want to support his family that he claims to love so much anyway I couldn't stay not working so I just got a really good job and he had a job 4 2 weeks and lost it I swear it is a pattern with him 2weeks and then 9 mo it happens all the time anyway I waited 6 months but I got to go to work cause yeah I have bills but I need money I am moving in 9 months to Utah state I have so many people out there that care about me and I care for them aswell anyway I gave my husband an ultimatium I told him with in this 9mo he needs to find a job and work for 6mo straight or he isn't going with me but I honestly don't want to wait my internet and phone are about to be shut off because he said he would go to work for 3 days at Labor works to make the money well he hasn't done that yet and I don't think he is going to either so it is really aggrivating because instead buying my son his birthday presents I should have paid the bill but I got my son his school clothes for his birthday and my mom sent him a gift card for his main present but my son loves clothes and actually asked for them for his birthday he didn't want toys so I now am about to be out of a phone and internet because he lied once again so I have a job but I just got it and I am not going to get paid right away so I can't pay these bills until then but it will be to late by then but I don't really care because they are in his name but I am working an overnight shift so I am tired when I come home and do you think he would get up to get the kids out to the bus (of course not)  he stays a sleep as if he worked 2 jobs and I get the kids ready and walk them out to the bus then I go to sleep with my son cause he will sleep longer if I sleep nextto him and then he gets up I feed him and get him dressed and then at 12 he goes to school and I don't go to sleep I clean the house and do you know where my husband is either still asleep or on the computer on myspace I am just so tired of this and even my oldest daughter tells me I should leave him because I am so unhappy it shows and I agree with her because I was staying for the kids I thought but in actuallity I was staying cause I didn't want to be by myself with 3 kids but I think we would be better off ..... Anyway I am trying to find a place to move into with out him and somewhere I can save money cause I am moving out of Washington as soon as school gets out but I can't stay with him anymore it is bringing me down....... and when I finally tell him I am leaving now he is going to cry and is really sad when he cries but this is getting so old ..... Jessica 

[meetzycat]

Sep. 13, 2008 at 1:40 PM

You have to do what is good for you and your kids and not someone else, even though he is your husband.  My hubby gets that way as well.  He can hold a job, and has for the 25 years that we've been together, but is lazy around the house.  If I'm not nagging him, he will lay in bed or on the lazy boy all day long.  When I start to get bitchy, which happens more often than not, he will say something stupid like "Why don't you ask".  Hello, after 25 years i would think you should know what has to be done.  He is getting a little better at helping, mainly because I started a job and he has no choice.

If you have given him chance after chance, now is the time to make yourself happy, and a happy mom makes for a happy home.  Good luck to you.

[katskandles]

Sep. 13, 2008 at 7:23 PM

Hi.  Trust me, kids do just fine in a 1 parent home.  And sometimes it's better for them. They can feel the tension between you and your husband even if yo think you're hiding it.  That's not good for them.  If you're that unhappy, and is sure sounds like you are, you need to get out of the relationship for yourself and then everything else will fall into place.  I'm sorry he keeps disappointing you.  Soon you will have no respect for him at all and that's no way to live. 

Do what is best for you and I swear that will also be best for your gorgeous little ones.

[Mom_Of_9]

Sep. 27, 2008 at 6:38 AM

Were in WA r u right now? I/We just moved out of WA. to AZ. and even thou we r strugling I am happy to be in AZ.

Contatc me I would love to chat with ya