My decision to be a career mom

[JnKsMommy]

For the whole time I've been a mom,I've been a Stay at home Mom. Sure, I've had a couple of part time jobs, but it was always something where I could take my kids with me. I've never ("Put" or "Stuck")(in others peoples terms)  my kids in Childcare just because I felt like it.  I've been nicely blessed with a Husband who has a great job, who could support our family without my having to work.
My son is now in Kindergarten, my daughter will be four in a couple of weeks. Sure, My children have gone to Mother Day Out programs at our churches for interaction and a little learning with other kids., and during those times, I would do all my errands. Mothers day Outs, that were only a couple hours long, because someones Mom's need some time alone and when Daddy is working full time and you have NO relatives anywhere near you, you just need a break~!

Things have changed in the past year.  In July, my husband and I made a decision that would change our lives. We moved about an hour and a half away from where we were living.... We were living in a big city, where EVERYTHING was at.. Shopping malls, restauraunts, tons of churches, friends, etc, etc, etc.
It was ALL THERE.  Our decision to Move to the Country, with lots of land, and a lake and a river, etc, where you have to DRIVE a few miles before you can find anything to eat or do... Our decision to do this has been excellent. YES my husband has a COMMUTE of an hour and some.... But living in the City, we had a miscrscopic backyard, here my kids can run and play for a mile and still be SAFE. 
They are ALWAYS outside, climbing trees, riding four wheelers, bikes, playing on the hammock, playing with the dogs, running wild and free.. They've probably grown a couple inches in the past month and a half. Fresh Air has really been GREAT FOR THEM!

Back to my point, With this moving out here, I also have to work.  I work in Insurance! I made descent money, My son is in Kindergarten and YES, my daughter is now in a full time preschool.  Am I sad,  NO~ She LOVES IT! She really does. She does not cry when I leave her, She has a ton of friends, She is learning a TON of stuff.  This is an EXCELLENT preschool. They are teaching them how to read, and all sorts of stuff,  Her social skills and learning skills have quadrupled since she's been there.

My hours are flexible to an extent. I consider myself lucky, I suppose, that I get off an hour and a half after my son gets home from school. I start work at hour after he has to be at school. So I still get to spend a TON of time with him and with our daughter.
We get to play outside and all sorts of things, but I do not regret my decision to become a career mom. if anything, I feel more empowered by it all. I still have plenty of time with my family, our clothes are clean, theres food on the table when its time to eat. etc.  I am helping my family out more by working.

So for all the people out there trying to judge those who may or may not be working, just because YOU don't agree with it get a life. Don't judge others. Leave that to God!
Some families HAVE TO HAVE TWO incomes to survive in todays world.  Some DON'T!
Some Mothers CHOOSE TO WORK, because it makes them a BETTER person.  Some CHOOSE to stay at HOME!  Some FATHERS CHOOSE to stay at HOME!   Who cares.. As long as We are doing what is best for OUR FAMILY that is all that matters!

God Bless You all, Have  a great weekend!

 

*edited to add: This post in no way, is trying to judge others. If you work, GREAT. If you can stay at home, Great!  I am just trying to get people to see boths sides of the story.. Some people like to insult me, when they find out that I am working outside the home, full time.. because (in their words) HOW can you DO that do your kids... let other people raise them?  this is what makes me the most upset..  I AM NOT letting other people raise my children.  My children spend 4 and 5 years at home with me anyways, they still LIVE with me, I still FEED them and TAKE CARE of them.. I think working mothers have a TON of responsibilties on top o their regular Mom duties.... I think Stay at home moms have a lot to deal with to~  I've been both!! I just posted this to CLEAR up confusion for all those who have been so insulting towards Stay at HOME moms, and those who are NOT stay at home moms! 

People need to do what they need to do.. That is all.

 

By the way, for all of those people reading this that want to post nasty comments to my post, this is MY JOURNAL, MY THOUGHTS.. I POST THEM to relieve STEAM.  NOT to be insulted to posting my opinions and if you LOOK AT THE POST AGAIN, maybe you'll realise that I've been BOTH a STAY AT HOME MOM and a FULL TIME WORKING MOTHER. I'm not saying either is the BEST or WORST. I am not talking DOWN on anyone that has to work, or anyone that stays at home. If you KNOW me, you'll know that I am one of the MOST SUPPORTIVE people in the world for supporting people on doing what they have to do, or NEED to do... 

[corgansmommy]

Sep. 19, 2008 at 10:39 AM

i'm so glad you and your family are happy with this decision!  :)

[MichelleJ]

Sep. 20, 2008 at 11:29 PM

I applaud you.  You are doing what is best for YOU and YOUR family.  It doesn't matter what everyone else thinks, anyway.  Good for you!  :)