Just a few Examples of why my mom is a bitch
- September 23, 2008 at 9:19 PM by Darkangelpunk
- 8 Comment(s)
- 99 Total Views
Journal Post
My mom is being such a bitch, I'm grown up now, but I live in her house. against my wishes, ( I can't afford to live at our apartment anymore)
She yells at me to clean my room. its just cluttered that's it, I don't have many places to put things in my room. and then the baby's room get messy because we spend all our time in there since it has a TV.
she wanted to talk the other night but when she says talk she ends up yelling at people. so when I came home from work I didn't say anything to anyone and I just picked up my husband and we left to visit his pops and Aunt, for a few hours. all she does is bitch and bitch. and it stresses me out so much and I don't want my 1 month old to be around that yelling all the time.
My mom is so horrible she made my cry right after I came into the room after having my c section for my first born child. she made a big deal about me borrowing money for my car insurance, and bitching about how my husband being there with me at the hospital, instead of at work. The night nurse had calm me down and got a rag to wipe my tears away before my husband, baby, and MIL came back in the room.
my MIL told me that while I was in the operating room getting stitched back up my mom and her had an argument about family vs. work, my mom saying work is more important than family, she said if she was having surgery she would want my dad to be at work not waiting with her. she just had surgery on her arm, that is completely different than having surgery to give birth to my first born child. what a bitch.
oh and on sun night she was mad that a box of her fine china was missing from the garage. and she and my dad were fighting about it because it is always my dads fault somehow. she went out to the garage to look for it and my dad accidently bumped her broken arm and she got so mad that she broke his hearing aid. and they were fighting so much that me and my husband grabbed the baby and drove to a friends house around the corner.
- Written by Darkangelpunk on September 23, 2008 at 9:19 PM
- 99 total views
- See all posts by Darkangelpunk
- Everyone can see this journal post.
Comments:
Who watches the baby when you work? Does she go to daycare?
She seems to have some issues for sure
I have a daughter living with me, with her baby. SHE makes sure she cleans up after herself and her child. She respects me and being able to be here. If your mom asks you to clean up your room, do so, what is the big deal? Its her house! Its her heat she is paying for. I am sure she doesn't mind you being there and helping you out but it is an inconvenience of a sort and I know that can get on my nerves.
And she is right, your husband should have been at WORK instead of lazing around the hospital. You were being taken care of by hospital staff and just because both of you had a baby, that doesn't give him the right to take time off when you both obviously can't afford to live on your own WITH a baby you both chose to produce into this world.
Your moms bitching is probably aggravation of having to deal with three extra people in HER house and getting not much respect for it.
If you were to turn around and say, mom , your right, I do need to clean up my room and thank you for putting up with us, I appreciate you mom. I bet even just doing that would alleviate many of your moms anxiety/tantrums in a very short period of time.
You need to appreciate what she is doing for you. The excuse the TV is in the room? You can't clean up while watching it? I clean a 3,000.00 square foot home every day with TV's in them, listening and vacuum during the commercials if the talk show or whatever is really good at the time.
I think its more give your mom a break time. It sounds to me like she needs it WAY more then you.
I am just stating my opinion and I am not bashing you. I see it from your moms point of view. I am living it now, here. So please try to see it from your moms point of view. She raised you, and now when she should be sitting and watching TV , relaxing , you, your husband and a child are thrown into her home. You are SO lucky she allows you to be there . The babies daddy of my daughter , IF he ever walks into my house I will call the police immediately and he will be arrested for trespassing. I put up with no crap from anyone.
Take a breather..... you are a new mom, and your very emotional right now. You have some points IMO. You did not need your mom yelling at you in the hospital room, that was uncalled for. To me your mom sounds old fashion ( you know back in the old days) husband at work or home, while moms at hospital having babies....Yes your mom has issues, and she needs to deal with them....I do have to say JMO you need to get on your feet as fast as you can, and get a place of your own. Cause if you live in your mom's house she will expect you to go by her rules... I do think your mom's timing is off, and she needs to learn how to talk to people even family..... Take care... and CONGRATS on the little one. She is cute.
msugarkane
i would HATE to be one of your kids if that's the way you see things. never in a MILLION years would my mom treat me the way that lady treats her daughter. are you kidding me? yelling at her right after he c-section? talking about how the father of the child should have been at work instead of by his wife's side as she gives birth to the child HE helped create? thats ridiculous! shit, if shes living at home its because she needs help and support from her parents ( which, by the way, IS a parents job. i would do it for my kid and his wife, if he ever gets married, no questions asked), not because she wants to.
chinstrsre.......unless your living in the same sitation you can't possibly know the stress on her mom. I think there are respect issues between both of them.
After the baby was born, I believe he could of gone to work the next day. Being there for the birth... sure. Sticking around the hospital the next 3 days or so and not working, there is no reason for that. He could stop by after work and spend time with his new baby.
I have lived at home at one time with my oldest daughter at my father's house and I can't be so thankful. I gave him the respect and appreciation he deserved. I could not have done it without him. In turn, my dad gave me the respect for being a younger mother and making things work so I could get back on my feet.
Want to leave a comment and join the discussion?
Click here to register for CafeMom
Already a member?Click here to log in
Today's Theme (36 posts)
Have you started your holiday shopping yet?
Read what other moms are writing
Write your own post
View Prior Themes
Your momma has some issues that she needs to deal with. She seems to have a little too much of a "hot head" to be around kids!
josie_mommyof2 Sep. 23, 2008 at 9:24 PM