Kenjin visit #3.....yikes

[Valerie4882]

Well this morning about 9:45AM Meril just walked through the door. No call or anything to let me know he was coming by. Kenjin takes his morning nap around 10. So this time was bad. But when he walked through the door I calmly asked him

"What are you doing here?"

His response was

"What I can't see my son?"

I told him that he needed to give me advance notice. He said that is stupid and he shouldn't have to make an appointment to see his son. I told him it was out of respect for me so that I know when he is coming and that I can keep myself calm. Cause at this point, the way he was talking to me, I started shaking. Also Kenjin is usually overjoyed to see someone come over. Kenjin just kinda looked at Meril with a look of "what are you doing here" on his face. And as I continued to tell Meril that it isn't right for him to just show up, he started yelling at me. Telling me that he is paying for the apartment so he can pretty much see Kenjin whenever he wants. But he has no clue when Kenjin takes his naps or his schedule at all. Not to mention the respect due to me. I can't be around him because he upsets me so much. I told him that is why I need advance notice. For the unborn baby's sake. I have a month left before he is born and I want to be happy and at ease. Not stressed out and crying. I told him that he lied to my mom telling her that he wants to work it out. When I told him that his response is "No, what are you doing to make things better? Kicking me out is going to make it better?" I told him yes because I can't be around you. You are emotionally abusive. His response is that this is stupid. I was crying and shaking at this point and I told him to leave. He did leave and Kenjin started crying, but once he saw me cry he stopped. My lil man is being strong for me. I just hate that he even had to experience that....*sigh* I just can't believe how hurtful and inconsiderate he is. It's like every week gets worse.

Oh and I forgot to say that he wants to take me off all the credit cards.  Since I'm a SAHM how am I supposed to feed the kids?  He said he'll give me cash or check but wants me off the credit cards.  What a guy huh?