A very stressful week

[ereider]

Well as some of you know, I had to go to a funeral on Monday for a 4 month old baby.  That was really hard on me.  Everything went good through the week until Friday morning.  I received a phone call from my dad saying that I needed to go over and be with my mom.  I asked why.  He told me that he left.  So needless to say my father has left my mother, my brother, and myself.  I was really upset.  He said that he didn't want us anymore.  Which really hurt me because my father and I are very close.  Well later on that day while I was at my mom's house, my sister-in-law came over and got on the computer.  Well we found out that my dad has been on singles sights to try and hook up with other women.  I got back on the computer later and found pics of him undressed and another women.  Mom wanted me to print it out so I did.  My brother spent the night with my mom because my hubby had to be at work by 7am and we didn't think it was right to take the kids over with mom being so upset.  I was suppose to spend the night tonight but I got another surprise.  Hannah was coughing and has a runny nose.  Well she coughed to the point that she threw up alot.  Plus she had a fever of 102.4.  I called the doctor and he saw her.  Then off to the hospital for x-rays of Hannah's chest to see if it was pneumonia.  Low and behold she is sick with pneumonia again.  I just hope and pray that I don't get sick.  Oh I didn't mention that dad left mom with the morgage payments plus all of the bills.  So my brother and I are going to help her out as much as we can.  My mom's sister and mother (my aunt and grandma) are mad at my brother because my dad is staying at his house tonight.  I haven't heard from my father since yesterday.  I want to talk to him but I don't know what to say.  I still love him, I am just very upset over the choices that he has made.  So any advice that you ladies have would be greatly appreiciated.  Thank you so much.  Take Care.   Em  =)

[singedwingangel]

Sep. 27, 2008 at 10:13 PM

Ok first of all if he chose to leave he cannot leave her with the bills, especially if she does not work nor has worked in the last few years. However there is such a thing called ALIMONY and she needs to be getting it and she does not have to wait for a divorce she can file for a formal seperation with the pictures she has printed my guess is he will do well to play nice...

[ereider]

Sep. 27, 2008 at 10:18 PM

My mom is an RN.  So alimony is out of the question.  I don't know what she is going to do.  She has depended on him for so long, that she needs to depend on herself right now.  It is going to be hard but she needs to do it.

(Original Poster)

[AlohaWahine]

Sep. 28, 2008 at 2:12 PM

[AlohaWahine]

Sep. 28, 2008 at 2:19 PM

I don't know what to say but I'm sorry. May you find peace within yourself to deal with what comes next. Be there for your Mom. Take Care & God Bless. Love you !