In-Law Issues...

[kristichristen]

Okay..where to begin...

I don't really think there is a way to make this long story short..so here it is from the sort of beginning.

My hubby and I dated for three and a half years before we were married. In that time, his sister called him to tell him that she saw me smoking (I quit just for him and am proud to say I haven't touched one since we started dating), and also to tell him I was cheating on him. Luckily for me, he happens to know this sister of his is psychotic, so he didn't believe her.

Lo and behold, last Thanksgiving HER husband catches her in bed with another man. This man is someone her and her husband took in because he is a crazy alcoholic that had no where to live. So she announces to her family she is getting a divorce- on her MOTHER'S BIRTHDAY!

Her and her husband have a four year old daughter who means the world to me hubby and I. So everything is quiet for a while, and then we get a phone call at 10 o'clock at night from hubby's parents saying that she tried to commit suicide. We take her daughter, the family is in an uproar, I want nothing more than to take this precious baby away from her and give her the stability and love she deserves. This whole cry for attention "attempted suicide" all happened with her daughter there. Sick. Makes me want to vomit.

She gets out of the hospital, daughter goes home with her, everything is quiet for a while again. I get pregnant, hubby's other NORMAL sister gets pregnant with twins after two miscarriages, and we are all happy.

Well, since the attention has been directed at the pregnant sister and I, I just KNEW something was bound to happen.

Once again, hubby gets a phone call saying she is back together with her husband, and they are pregnant. The kicker?? She doesn't know who's baby it is!!

I wanted to kick the crap out of her! Tear her arms off! Force her to get her uterus removed! What right does she have to bring a baby into her mess when she doesn't take care of the one she has?? Not only that, her and her husband are over sixty grand in debt!

My hubby and I have basically said we don't want anything to do with her any more. We don't want her around our children. I am just afraid I might kill her.

What would you do??

[LisaKelz]

Sep. 30, 2008 at 11:24 AM

Your in-laws sound similar to mine! Just keep them out of your life as much as possible. You dont want your kids learning anything from his crazy sister!!

[sarah_ray06]

Sep. 30, 2008 at 11:29 AM

So iread with this with every intent to give you advice....but once I got through it ...I was like "wow what do I tell her?"Good luck and I think I would try my best to stay away and keep that littl egirl away.=)

[mommabiggs]

Sep. 30, 2008 at 11:30 AM

Wow... not a situation I would want to be in... Not that you want to be in it either...

Please don't let the parents actions affect your thinking of the child. I would not say hang out and be buddy buddy with the mom and dad. But do not forget the child. Send cards and let it know you care for it... But for the sake of your child and relationships you do need to distance yourselves from the drama...