I was just reading another entry about BF versus FF and it really made me think that we mothers all need to stop nit-picking; motherhood is hard enough as it is without us bashing each other for the choices we make.

I used to be one of those BF mothers who quietly looked down on mothers who FF, I am ashamed to admit that, that I was so narrow minded and just assumed it was a mothers selfish decision. Leave it to God to show me that it isn't always the mother's decision and that it isn't my place to judge even if it is their choice.

I strictly BF my oldest till nine months only to find out that milk wasn't rich enough for him; he hadn't gained weight for 3 months. I now know why he never cried to let me know he was still hungry, he has SPD (sensory processing disorder) and doesn't feel pain and such as he should, anyway, I tried everything to help my milk but ended up having to supplement.

With my second I tried BF again, and had the same problem as well as him having food allergies. The best choice for him was soy formula. I have to admit that it broke my heart when I couldn't BF anymore with my first, I wan't to do what was best for him but my body was unable to give him what he needed. With my second I kept things more in prospective, I was hoping this time would be different, but knew that I would be okay if I had to FF. When we have more kids I will try BF again and hope and pray it will work this time, but I am secure and confident that I will do what is in the best interest of my children.

It's still hard for me. When I am out with my boys and have to feed I see other mothers eyes watching disapprovingly and it hurts. I know that BF in public brings it's own set of problems, cause I have been there as well. We get enough criticism from others so us mom's need to support each other regardless of how we choose, or HAVE to feed our children. I encourage you all to rethink it when you are criticising another mother for a decision she may have had no choice in.

Tags: breastfeeding, formula feeding, motherhood, criticising, support, milk supply, food allergies, spd

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