"Where is your daughter?"

[thatspagirl]

How frightening to just recently get a phone call from my daughter's middle school, asking me where she was.  I said, dumbfoundedly, "Why, she's there".  I get, "no, she isn't in school today" so they were checking on her.  I scream (yes, scream) back "WHAT???!!!  I saw her get on the school bus this morning!"  The secretary apologizes and promises to check and call me back.   Well!  That was the LONGEST TWO MINUTES in my ENTIRE life!  She called back to tell me that yes, she is indeed in school, and apologizes for the mix-up.

I start blasting (I apologize for my hysteria amidst this) her concerning: 1.  how can they mix this up?, 2. Aren't they re-checking themselves?, 3. What seems to be the problem?....I explain how I now cannot feel my legs; that my blood pressure just soared making me feel like I was going to pass out; how I wanted to vomit, etc.  She recommends that I leave a message for the principal; she entirely understands, especially when I tell her that though I understand mistakes happen, to me, this very minute, because I'm an hysterical mom, that this was unacceptable.

I left a message for the principal.  But UGH - how awful thoughts start strewing thru your mind.  I'm STILL shaking while writing this, trying to decide if I should pay a visit to the school or not.  (Probably best not....I'm too upset....)

My girls are my world!  Just the sheer thought of losing one of them put me in so much fright, anger, and hysteria.... I feel so bad for when things happen to other people, but when it can potentially happen to your family....it makes us all vulnerable to how evil and caustic the world can be at times.  Don't get me wrong - I'm typically a "glass 1/2 full person" as opposed to a "glass 1/2 emply" person, and I like to think that overall, the world is OK.  But when something like this happens, man alive, the fear grips so hard.

OK, had to post this.  In a way it's helping me to calm down.  Hope NO ONE ever gets a call like that & it's real.... The first thing I will do when they get off that school bus today is hug them tightly!

 

 

 

[brandonwifey]

Oct. 2, 2008 at 9:30 AM

Awww how sweet. U must be a really good mom. Yeah i prolly would have done the same too forgot that i would went to the school and fuss out the bus driving cause thats the last time you seen her. Longest they found her thats all its matter. Glad to hear some good news. When i read your title on the journal post page the 1st thing ran thru my mind the Caylee Story and thats a really sad one. Glad they found her Hit me up sometimes.

[MomOfDoubleJs]

Oct. 2, 2008 at 9:32 AM

Thanks goodness it was a mix-up!  But also consider, if something had happened, wouldn't you want the school to call to ask where you daughter was?  Since the secretary was making calls, it means someone else might be receiving that same phone call, thinking their child is at school, only to find out they are not.

Instead of being upset there was a mix-up on the call list, be grateful they easily caught the mistake, that it was not your daughter missing and that her school cared enough to call.

[thatspagirl]

Oct. 2, 2008 at 12:32 PM

Well, the principal did call me about an hour ago.  He couldn't apologize enough.  What torked him is that he JUST had a meeting with the entire teaching staff YESTERDAY, and double-checking attendance was on the agenda.  The first period teacher is to look over the absentee list and verify that a child is or is not in his/her class and present/absent.

Yes, I agree.  At least they check.  What scares me is that I am at the bus stop, in my vehicle, each morning to wave good-bye to both my girls.  With having Asperger's Syndrome (high-functioning autism), they are targets to anyone who wants to be mean to them.  They are so trusting and caring, and can't understand how some people can be so mean.   We've been lucky in school with kids for the most part, but today's mix-up sure scared the heck out of me! 

Thanks for your comments!  I feel better now, but it was a scary 2 minutes till I got that phone call that, yes, she was in school. 

 

 

(Original Poster)

[wonderpetsmom]

Nov. 12, 2008 at 11:28 AM

i had this problem on vet day, i ASSUMED my youngest didnt have school cause my hs'ler did not, so at 11am school calls and says she isnt coming today? so being embarrassed of course i said i guess not, the point of this is she starts school at 8:15am! they did not call me until 11! what if i did send her off and she was missing for 3 whole hours! schools need to get this straightened out! that was not cool of them to wait that long to realize the kid wasnt in shcool, any one else had this issue?

[thatspagirl]

Nov. 12, 2008 at 6:49 PM

Now that's just awful!  With mine, they called about an hour after she was already at school (looking for her).  And with Veterans Day, I think they need to make up their mind.  One year they have it off; the other they don't.  This year, both my two (HS & MS) didn't have school.  Go figure.  Where's the respect anymore?

(Original Poster)